independence

[system]

Re: independence

What's the harm in showering alone? Taking a bath I understand can be dangerous. But showers?

[Muslim_Queen]

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@SarahSplendor

What’s the harm in showering alone? Taking a bath I understand can be dangerous. But showers?

Very dangerous. You’ve never heard of kids who opened up the hot water while standing under the shower? Scary stuff I tell you!

Supervision is always important. But parents do have to let kids start doing small things by themselves. But to be quite honest, the last thing one should do is leave a kid alone in the bath/shower. Before that they need to stress the importance of safety. And kids by nature are very curious beings.

[system]

Re: independence

Turn the shower on for them and adjust water temperature. Stay near the bathroom, leave the door open so you can hear them if they fall or call out for help. But privacy is important. Make it easier for yourself as well, because constant supervision with three children leaves no time for oneself.

[Starsky]

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I think the child is responsible enough when he/she understands a shower is to clean themselves and they know HOW to do it. For example, controlling water temperature for starters. The last thing you want is a child screaming with burns after leaving the hot water running for too long. Its like when a kid learns to use the toilet on their own - cleaning themselves after and not peeing all over the seat.

[Afia]

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@ahmadjee

And I can relate the persistence kids show on ‘maiN khuddi’. Misbah does not sit in a high chair, wants to eat from the same kind of plates and glasses we are using and she will not even let us serve her, she thinks she can handle the big serving spoon.

haha…glad to see zainab’s not alone she gets ‘offended’ if we give her any drinks in spill proof bottles…!!n also spoon feeding her is a big NO NO!

[Afia]

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sarah you are right ....but these were the fears of a mother .....:)

i think ....i'll let him do it now :-)

[niyal]

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caring mother , afia u are.

[Qrius]

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i don't remember my mom giving me bath or shower..so i guess i must be taking a bath from a younger age..Afia, what you could do is instead of shower get a big balti for your kids..if you already don't have one..and ask them to use those. If you are worried about the cleanliness..how about you scrub your kids before they go for shower(when you give them massage)..this way you are not worried about the cleanliness..or teach them to use a scruber for their back.

[Shahreen]

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It varies for child to child but if your son feels he is capable enough to shower himself then give him the benefit of the doubt and see how it goes. If he gets it wrong then you can keep sending him back untill he's squeaky clean. He's going to have to start showering alone someday and he won't learn it overnight.

[Afia]

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Qrius n Shahreen...thank you!:)

Qrius i don't remember it either ....but i thought that must be my bad memory...:)

i sent him alone this morning ,....n he was quite excited ....:)
i checked the water temp. ...adjusted it .....gave him some shampoo in a small cup....n watched him .....he needed some help for scrubbing his back.....n forgot to wash off soap from behind the ears .....:)
but i think it was still good .....i think he can practice all he can in this summer break ......so at least one less kid to take to shower when school starts :)

[homer_j_simpson]

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@Afia

sarah you are right …but these were the fears of a mother …

i think …i’ll let him do it now

wow… afia u remind me of me mum…she wudnt lemme shower by myself until i was like 9 or something…and even after that she wud check whether i have cleaned my self and check my hair…i used to be very annoyed then…but just right now u reminded me of those days