Re: Increasing Divorce Rate
I agree with funguy that women having greater financial liberty has a lot to do with it (which is good) but I also believe that the rate of cousin marriages is decreasing and in my experience cousin marriages in desi culture are a lot less likely to end up in a divorce.
Re: Increasing Divorce Rate
To those that suggest that broken homes produce bad children who further produce bad relatonships and bad marriages...thats somewhat of a generalisation...
The issue is whether a child gets to attention required from its parent...granted its harder to give a child the attention required when a single parent but children can be equally neglected in two parent marriages especially if both parties are earning...
Just cos you are from a single parent background doesnt neccesarily mean you wont get the nurtuting and devlopment required to be a productive member of society...
Re: Increasing Divorce Rate
^ depends - that's not what stats show in the Amrikan ishtates. Single-parent homes are a big concern - very few pple can manage it, although the ones that do deserve accolades.
Plus, some single parents have other family support to help them, so kiddo has aunts and grandmas etc around him/her all the time.
Or maybe parent gets lucky with a responsible and caring babysitter.
Re: Increasing Divorce Rate
And as for marriages and relationships failing...it comes down to increased expectancy from both sides...we tend to date more and are surrounded by options that we didnt have before...so for instance based on the girls i have met i have certain expectations which naturally no one girl can fulfil...one was a good cook, one was better giving affection, one was better conversation...by the way i havent mentioned them in order of importance...its the same for girls...i cant just out food on the table and expect to be a good husband...i have to cater to all her needs which have come from her increased independence and exposure to new realities which werent existent or arent existent in realities of say some village freshys...
This naturally will lead to dis-satisfaction as it becomes harder and harder to satisfy your partner...what we need to understand is compromise and giving and to understand that life will never be perfect for us...we just have to draw the line somewhere...i envy one couple i met in sri lanka...they were so into each other...but their expectations of each other was to meet the other ones needs and to make the partner happy...nothing more...and these were realistic needs...so it is easy for them to stay happy...in the west however...we always want more...we are never satisfied with what we have...Maslows self actualisation can never be reached...we just have to work together to get as close as possible to that
Re: Increasing Divorce Rate
^ that's why I say, its materialism having its effect on personal relationships. Look at the quality of "friendships" in today's world. When bros-sis's turn against each other because of property/wealth issues, how do you expect the same bro/sis to have a healthy marriage? Unless if they find a similar money hog with whom they can plan scams with.
Re: Increasing Divorce Rate
"depends - that's not what stats show in the Amrikan ishtates. Single-parent homes are a big concern - very few pple can manage it, although the ones that do deserve accolades.
Plus, some single parents have other family support to help them, so kiddo has aunts and grandmas etc around him/her all the time.
Or maybe parent gets lucky with a responsible and caring babysitter."
Stats can be misleading...i agree single parent families can so easily not work out...a stripper i met has no idea as to how to raise her as she had her child when she was 16 at the time and didnt have the best upbringing herslef...she prioritises her own fun over the needs of her child...she strips at night and is a coke addict...she young and wants to have fun but at the expense of her child...her child was not done because she intended to have one...its just she decided not to have an abortion when she fell pregnant....
Now for those who intend to have children but end up alone raising the child the situation is better...im from a single parent background but my mother wanted a child and made raising me her priority...infact the fact she was a single parent probably made me easier to prioritise me over anything else because i am all she has...
So the issue is to do with care of the child...Two parent families are no different...Im sure if you check stats for when two parents are working...the child tends to not turn out well as no-one is caring for the wellbeing...a nanny or babysitter is there to mind you...not to bring you up...
And as for extended families they can be very useful but unofrtunately in our narrow minded society there is probably no room fro help with a single asian mother...