Islam needs modernizing. Laws made for a society of 1400 yrs ago are not uniformaly appliable now.
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hi
islam needs modernising ????????? give me break how much and what have you studied about the laws and regulations of islam, the shirayah law and the quran???????
secondly who are you to say islam needs modernising when you have no clue what it is in the 1st place.
number 3 if faith is modernised by normal everyday people not to mention ileterate and sadcases like urself it would not be the faith of god it would become something which humans made them selves
number 4 if u want islam to be edited and changed to your personal needs no matter what they are according to the quran and haddes you would become a murtad (a non muslim) so in future my friend be careful what comes out of your mouth.
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*Originally posted by mal1k: *
I've already said its da media....Parents should alwayz be in control over the child on what he/she can watch & how much of TV/Internet hours should be allowed....!
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I have to completely disagree with this statement. It isn't the media's responsibility to raise a child and teach it the difference between right and wrong ... it's the parents responsibility. You heard all these arguments about how the media causes murder, rape, etc. after the Columbine massacre when Buffy the Vampire Slayer and Marilyn Manson were blamed for what happened which to me is utterly ridiculous.
I cannot stress this enough ... parents need to actually talk and communiate with their kids. Parents can't always control what their child watches on television or on the internet. They can't control what happens when the child is out of their sight which is why it is so important that they actually talk to their kids, develop a relationship of trust where it is safe to discuss things.
I can go out and watch all kinds of stuff online or on television but that doesn't mean that I will mimick what I see cause I've been taught the difference between seeing things and actually doing them.
I have noticed in a lot of desi families there is no or very little communication between parents and their children which is why you have so many kids blatantly lying to their parents about their whereabouts and what they are up to. If they actually talked, developed a relationship of trust and friendship from when the child was young, then stuff like this wouldn't even be happening.
It's the parents responsibility to reach out to their kids and it's the child's responsibility to actually let them in.
Children have thoughts and emotions as well just like adults. That's why I think it's important to actually talk to kids when they are little, about how they are feeling, what they are thinking .... treat them like an individual who is your equal and give them the kind of respect you would give an adult. Only then can I see a desi child having enough courage to actually open up if they are being abused. They need to feel safe and the parents are the primary individuals who can create this safety net.
I disagree with the notion that media does not influence childrens behavior. Even the encyclopedia britanicca mentions that it does, and so do several other studies.