Oh please. All the women who are going nuts about Fifty Shades of Grey, for what? Its literary value? Its plot? It is BDSM porn. Do you see men crying bloody murder? Just because she sees porn as a form of cheating does not mean it is cheating. She never gets turned on by those acrobatic maneuvers? What is she, some sort of a god who transcends basic human instincts? Learning Kama Sutra just to please her husband? Dude, some of those positions are downright shocking, and I have seen a stripper cry on stage.
Look, you can have your Kama Sutras, your Fifty Shades of Greys, just let us have our Fifty Shades of Sasha Grey. And stop making such a big deal about it.
Maybe my example wasn't perfect so the meaning didn't come out the way I intended. To me, watching/reading about porn/sex activities for pleasure is wrong, whether it is a woman who does it or a man. It's okay to fantasize about your spouse but not okay to fantasize about the characters you see on tv. The more people get inspired by these things, the weirder the stunts they'd wanna try in the bedroom ... even the ones forbidden by religion. And then when the wife refuses to group sex or partner swap, certain commentators on this forum would be quick to blame the wife for her lack of effort without knowing the full story. That was the only thing that I was objecting to... that just because one party is into porn, it doesn't necessarily mean it is the other spouse at fault.
This is just my opinion. You don't have to agree with me.
Or it could be that you discuss because you feel the other person generally gives good, sincere advice, wouldn't judge you, and wouldn't gossip about it to the other mutual friends.
My point was, what kind of advice can you possibly give on someone else's sex life? it's not a dig at you, I'm just amused a married person would ask that.
Also you said that she assumed you were doing it....I wouldn't consider someone who assumes I'm doing something that goes against my morals (again, assuming that premarital sex is against your morals) *a friend. *
I have friends too, and they're sincere and thoughtful and all, but I don't talk to all of them about everything, esp when they have little to no experience in it and I certainly wouldn't assume that they're into haram activities.
Maybe my example wasn't perfect so the meaning didn't come out the way I intended. To me, watching/reading about porn/sex activities for pleasure is wrong, whether it is a woman who does it or a man. It's okay to fantasize about your spouse but not okay to fantasize about the characters you see on tv. The more people get inspired by these things, the weirder the stunts they'd wanna try in the bedroom ... even the ones forbidden by religion. And then when the wife refuses to group sex or partner swap, certain commentators on this forum would be quick to blame the wife for her lack of effort without knowing the full story. That was the only thing that I was objecting to... that just because one party is into porn, it doesn't necessarily mean it is the other spouse at fault.
This is just my opinion. You don't have to agree with me.
This friend of yours, did she study KS before or after she got married.
What would u do if you found out your spouse was checking out inappropriate pics online...confront or what?
Nothing...cuz marriage doesn't mean that you can intervene in anyone's personal space....as long as your partner is sincere with you doesn't harm anything and there is no point of being so idiotically possessive and conservative that your partner cant even watch a pic of any one else....
It has everything to do with how a man views women. If they're seen simply as sex objects, which, sadly seems to be the norm in media nowadays, then he'll have no problem looking at stuff he has no right to look at.
What type of F*** logic is that?...all fingers are never the same....if a man looks at a woman as a sex object it doesn't mean he looks at all the woman as sex objects...Do not stereotype....I must say if a person watches porn it also doesn't mean that he doesn't respect that woman in the movie cuz he is watching her work how can he be referred as disrespecting her....
It has everything to do with how a man views women. If they're seen simply as sex objects, which, sadly seems to be the norm in media nowadays, then he'll have no problem looking at stuff he has no right to look at.
And what would you say about a woman or girl watching porn as i know many who do that... So it means those girls also do not have any respect for man...And there turns out to be another reality that there are both man and woman involved in porn then that girl watching porn must be having disrespect for both the genders and so it means she doesn't respect anyone in this world and vice versa....
My dear giving opinion is a good activity but being judgmental is never a good practice because it discloses how YOU respect other people.....
no, im saying the men she knows are either dishonest about it ,or she never asked them if they have ever looked up porn on internet.
Yes thats the issue i guess...Because watching porn is quite a personal kind of activity that generally ppl do not want to discuss publically thats why DOLPHIN doesn't know about anyone like that....
My impression on the subject is that every guy watches it. Its not a big deal and should not be seen as a failure on your part. I also find porn pointless. I don't see what it does aside from get a guy all worked up only to find himself alone. That's kinda pitiful IMHO.
I don't know if I'd feel soooo upset about it.
Another stereotyped and biased statement....EVERY GUY watches it....If many watches is doesn't mean every....and similarly why guy?...You are trying to say girls dont watch porn....WAKE UP its a bed DREAM......Check out any male Pornstar's fan page......
I do agree that 99.9% of guys over the age of say, 13, have experienced porn. My point was that guys who actually respect women, don't view them as a piece of meat and understand the boundaries and rights of women will refrain from watching it. Sure, they may have tried it, but ultimately, they did not feel comfortable.
Boundaries and rights of women....WOW.....And how those boundaries and rights of women are violated by watching porn or more precisely watching a woman in a porn movie...
I think filth likes to look filth, it's human behavior in its lowest form. Looking leads to many things, deal with it right now and quash it. Leave it and it will fester into something awful!
