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So what do you think about daughters financially helping parents, who did not spend a single dime on any of the daughters weddings or college education. Father stopped working in early 40S and refuses to work due to poor health ( diabetes and high level of cholesterol). In this situation do you think the married daughters are responsible to financially support the parents?
would your answer change if it were sons?
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Sadly yes, even in this day and age, I hear "bechari" being said to me for not being able to produce sons.
Women who give birth to sons are perceived as being superior. Yes, maybe a very small percentage of people have moved on, but I get asked "when will you have a son" question more often than you can imagine.
Here's my opinion:
1. It's a pity the woman is the biggest enemy of the woman. I cannot understand why a woman feels bad when she has a daughter. Shame on her. Pressures of society? Perhaps.
2. If we worked on educating our daughters, we'd eventually get rid of this mentality.
3. If married couples worked as a team, the question of who's to support old parents will never be an issue.
4. If every aira ghaira nathu khaira stopped getting worried and less enthusiastic about me not having a son, trust me it'll cause less heartburn for them. More than the parents, you see other folks worried for you. Jeez.
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No one has called me a bechari yet - at least to my face.
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^^ That's good!
Maybe because I have access to a lot of aunties, I and other friends who have just daughters are "becharis" :D
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you womanhater 
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:D
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no response? comments?
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we r "just" 2 sisters. when my younger sis was born 24 yrs ago, my pupho came to visit my mom and told her. "afsoos ke phir larki hui hai. maine tumhare liye suit liya tha, ke bete ke hone pe doon gi. lekin ab main suit nahin layii!"
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we r "just" 2 sisters. when my younger sis was born 24 yrs ago, my pupho came to visit my mom and told her. "afsoos ke phir larki hui hai. maine tumhare liye suit liya tha, ke bete ke hone pe doon gi. lekin ab main suit nahin layii!"
oh em gee
Simply retarded.
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Heard that before. 
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lemme share some really personal story. its not correlated with the idea being discussed here but the message worth listening.
a year ago my bhabi gave birth to a beautiful boy mashaALLAH say. after two weeks or so my bhabi had to go to emergency. my mom got really worried. my mom's health is good (mashaALLAH say) but not perfect (she is getting old, as one day i will be). at that time my mother was having extreme pains in her leg muscles around knee area.
no matter how much i love my mother i cant neglect the fact that she belongs to the general ratio where people sometimes give preference to societal values over rationality.
even in that "peechay kohaan, agay khaa'i" situation, she was worried that what gonna happen with the three kids, and also my brother. i had to lectured my mother that "Wo paak (ALLAH SWT) bana-nay wali hai. wo rizq denay wala or lenay wala hai. hum nahi. He SWT, takes care of everything, and NOT US! so quit worrying about thing that didnt even happen."
and when bhabi showed her worries, she told her the same "Wo zaat bananay wali hai, wohi bheter janta hai, or wohi bheter faisalay kerta hai".
so guys the moral is stick with rationality. if you believe that your existence worth meaning then dont lose hope. and every now and then its also good to stand up for strangers. i know many of us calculate the worthiness of time and money we spent on others but there are things which are beyond our imagination which will make sense if not in this world, then afterlife. as some wise man said "only fantasy needs to make sense"