Re: In love with one marrying another....
Synonyms: love, affection, devotion, fondness, infatuation
These nouns denote feelings of warm personal attachment or strong attraction to another person. Love is the most intense: marrying for love. Affection is a less ardent and more unvarying feeling of tender regard: parental affection. Devotion is earnest, affectionate dedication and implies selflessness: teachers admired for their devotion to children. Fondness is strong liking or affection: a fondness for small animals. Infatuation is foolish or extravagant attraction, often of short duration: lovers blinded to their differences by their mutual infatuation.
I don't know if the person involved in a relationship can tell they're infatuated (if they are), I think people around them can sense it. For example, if the guy/girl only thinks about the positive aspects of their partner and doesn't want to admit the negative aspects to themselves or if they don't want to hear anything negative about their partner from anyone before getting engaged even though that is the only time that people are allowed to backbite - if someone asks them about someone they are interested in marrying - and tell them honestly about the person's character, etc.; if they feel they can't live without their partner even though realistically, you can very well live without that person; etc. These are just examples but I would say basically anything extreme that doesn't focus on
the realities of life and it's very subjective. Love, on the other hand, is more objective and accepting of the realities.
I know so many people who confused their infatuation with their partner with love and the guys and girls would fight with their parents and either convince them or elope, etc. Most of them ended up getting divorced very quickly or regretted getting married to that person once they were married because it was only after the marriage that they realized how their partner truly was and all the negative stuff they had heard from people prior to their marriage and they had refused to accept was correct. These stories are really sad but we should take these examples to make sure we don't make the same mistakes. This post is not meant to point fingers towards anyone, it's just meant to be a reminder that these things do happen and we should try to analyze our relationships objectively before we get married.