Re: In - Laws in the wedding planning
^ While I disagree with your point that this is not a big deal, I do agree that the "answer" should not be about getting revenge. Making your life all about hurting them will simply make your life miserable.
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Best wishes, FD. Seems like you've got supportive people around you to help you out.
Re: In - Laws in the wedding planning
agree partly with what soni27 has said but PLEASE ignore the bit were shes said to give them what theyve asked for the groom. You don’t need to meet their demands for gifts last i heard demanding dowery was illegal… wtflip inlaws like this realy get up my nerves who the h**l do they think they are demanding stuff like their owed a favour, for heavens sake theyr the ones who have asked for the girls hand noone begged them to come… 
phew i feel light now.
Re: In - Laws in the wedding planning
That is exatly how my parents felt. They said " we are giving them a daughter we raised with good values that should be more than enough" They also felt that if we give them what they are asking for now then they will demand something in the future and my parents didnt want to go down that road.
I can already sense that I will have to hear their comments about how my parents didnt give them his attire......blah blah blah. But im going to have to learn to take it in one ear and out the other.I cant change their crazy ways but I will have to learn how to handle the situation better. Ive given up on the wedding planning.........I got to pick my own clothes and at this point could care less about the other things. You have to pick and choose your battles and im done fighting with them for things. At the end of the day its not about the wedding its about the marriage.
The only reason I wanted to make a point to my sister in laws is b/c I dont want them to think what they did was right. They have no shame in framing me and my family so I just wanted to make a point. Also, in my mom's day in age she got to pick her own clothes and everything from the guys side so its shocking how they want to make a point of picking everything out for me. My finace is having to pay for it all so in the begginning I didnt want to waste his money on something I wasnt going to wear. But now im thinking its not worth the fight. The gave me a sari that someone in his family made a comment about how ugly it was. Then when I said oh I got this from my MIL they were embarrassed. Again NOT worth the fight so im done trying.
I also agree with the comment about not saying too much to my fiance about his family. I just got soo frustrated with the whole situation that I told him a lot. No guy is going to take that about his family b/c obviously in front of him they act different. I told him though I wont come back and tell you everything as that is NOT fair for you, however when I feel like you should know about a situation I will let you know.
Its been a CRAZY week for me dealing with all this crap and the crap it put me and my fiance through. Im soooooooooo THANKFUL for everyones advice and responses here! THANKS AGAIN for the help with my situation!!!!!!!!!