Re: In-Laws deciding name…
^ I don’t think the discussion on our roles has anything to do with OP. I think we kinda started talking about things that’re actually separate topics from what the OP started. We realize that OP is planning on talking to her FIL per her post. But now the discussion seems to have taken a general term.
On a site note: Whether or not the picking the name of a child is a petty issue is not for you or anyone else to judge. We all have our personal beliefs and things that matter to us in life. There are brides out there who’re ok with the idea of someone else choosing their bridal. But many other’s aren’t. There are wives out there who don’t mind living in a joint family. But many other’s aren’t. There are wives out there who want to be SAHM…but other’s don’t. Many women out there don’t mind someone else picking the name for their child…but on the flip side, many women want take an active role in picking the name.
The list goes on. I understand and respect that YOU don’t mind if someone else has total control on naming your child and wants you to stay out of it. But many women out there don’t feel this way. No one really has any right to tell a parent (whether it’s the father or mother) that an issue is petty when it comes to their child. It’s something they feel strongly about…and everyone else needs learn to RESPECT the father & mother of the child, and not impose their own views on them.
** The above comments do not apply to OPs case since her in-laws are not the ones pushing for the name.