In-Laws deciding name...

[Sara516]

Re: In-Laws deciding name…

@Muzna

I was trying to suggest that one shouldn’t mind if the grandparents want to name the child. This should be perceived as an honor…somebody cares enough about your child to want to name it. They love you enough to want to be an integral part of your big event.

At the end of the day Allah bestowed the great honor of motherhood upon me…the name is merely a small part of this process. I would love my daughter no less had she been named Sher Bano ( not that there is anything wrong with that name).

on a side note… sometimes “growing a pair” means getting what you want without ever appearing to have done so.

I think there are two separate issues in this thread, one of the grandparent naming the child, and the second, the way the husband is treating her.

Nothing wrong with a grandparent having a say in the decision, but what’s more troubling is the way the husband is acting in all of this; he was easily able to convey his own dislike for a name to his father, but reacted negatively when she didn’t like the name.

Personally…my father-in-law was the one who named all the children (I assume my MIL also had her say with him); after he passed away, any child born after was named by his/her parents. My nephews were named by their dad (my brother had liked these names for a long time and his wife went along with it)…ideally I would like for my parents to have a say in the name, since they never really had a chance, and my in-laws already had many chances to name children…but ultimately, like you said…if I’m ever blessed in this lifetime to be a parent, I’d like to think I won’t make too big a fuss about the name.