Re: In-Laws deciding name…
This is part of the problem. When we expect this behavior and accept that the boy’s family has priority over the girl’s, there’s no point in protesting in these scenarios, is there. Sometimes when you point out the obvious injustice of a tradition that is taken for granted, it may inspire someone to reconsider their stance. Fear of rocking the boat isn’t going to change the status quo.
You’re not accusing him of being “evil,” no. But unfortunately he is being incredibly callous to his pregnant wife and unnecessarily making his dad look bad in the process. It’s great that you’re close with your FIL - maybe that’s your answer. Just chat with him on the phone, casually drop the name you like, and maybe tell him about the other Ibrahim in your family. I don’t know how fragile the dynamics are between you and your husband and how this might impact your marriage - that’s your call. But if he doesn’t understand the importance of compromise so early on in the marriage, it’s going to become increasingly difficult to get through to him down the line.