In laws complaints

[ALIREZA1]

Re: In laws complaints

@Tempe5t

You’re reading way too much into this and becominh all “gung-ho” about it.

Has the OP been forbidden from visiting her family? Does she feel oppressed by her husband? Relationships also entail compromise and sabar and tolerance and sacrifice and a lil something called “dar-Guzar” which is sorely lacking in practically every kind of relationship these days…marital or otherwise. If two people begin to insist upon equality in every single matter…you’ll find that not only is it hard to create 50-50 equal dynamics or hisaab-kitaab…it can also strain a relationship. We Desis have our slew of problems but the West is a mess too…where equality and its assertion can be taken to the point where two people and their egos won’t budge. There has to be balance and flexibilty. In trying to acheive a “perfect” balance, people forget about flexibility.

I don’t think I am reading too much into it. Marie is between 2 people, she is not married to her husband and his father at the same time. Her husband is okay with her staying at parents house as he wants his freedom also. Why is it always the woman who is advised to compromise. People cannot be compelled to do things without their wishes. In our laws that is abuse. It is no 50-50 here either woman seem to have more rights and we are okay with that.