In laws complaints

[Tempe5t]

Re: In laws complaints

@ALIREZA1

Compelling someone to do things against their wishes is classified as abuse, by the proposed standards a house servant has more rights than a wife, a servant gets off work sometimes, gets to visit his family, can quit on abuse and wont sleep with the boss. Relationships are based on equality and not obedience and subservience. I don’t know any western mother who would encourage their daughter to put up with crap. If husband and wife agree on something that is the only thing that matters.

You’re reading way too much into this and becominh all “gung-ho” about it.

Has the OP been forbidden from visiting her family? Does she feel oppressed by her husband? Relationships also entail compromise and sabar and tolerance and sacrifice and a lil something called “dar-Guzar” which is sorely lacking in practically every kind of relationship these days…marital or otherwise. If two people begin to insist upon equality in every single matter…you’ll find that not only is it hard to create 50-50 equal dynamics or hisaab-kitaab…it can also strain a relationship. We Desis have our slew of problems but the West is a mess too…where equality and its assertion can be taken to the point where two people and their egos won’t budge. There has to be balance and flexibilty. In trying to acheive a “perfect” balance, people forget about flexibility.