Compelling someone to do things against their wishes is classified as abuse, by the proposed standards a house servant has more rights than a wife, a servant gets off work sometimes, gets to visit his family, can quit on abuse and wont sleep with the boss. Relationships are based on equality and not obedience and subservience. I don’t know any western mother who would encourage their daughter to put up with crap. If husband and wife agree on something that is the only thing that matters.