In laws complaints

[Tempe5t]

Re: In laws complaints

@khattichic

I would have to disagree with this right here. Family is there to help **if they want to. **I don’t think it’s anyone else’s responsibility to help care for the baby, not dadi nor nani. If they choose to do so, that’s great and is a great help, but to have the expectation that it’s there god given duty to take the baby so the new mom can sleep is wrong in my opinion. Like I said in my post above, expectations lead to disappointments.

I didn’t get the vibe that she expected them to take care of the baby. By pampering…I got the feeling that she meant they don’t have much tolerance or flexibility for her…not that she expects them to cater to her whims.

In this case the in-laws did CHOOSE to take care of the baby. If you wanna do someone a favor or an ehsaan…baad main jataao mat…you only end up cheapening your good deeds.

Op’s didn’t see any of this coming…she’s stunned and baffled…it’s natural. She’s trying to process all of this and that can take time.

If this experience has taught her that they will never be pleased with her, then all she can do is to continue being kind to them but don’t harbor any expectations of acceptance from them. Be good to them to maintain her marriage. As long as her husband sees that she’s genuinely making an effort…that’s all that matters.