Re: In laws complaints
I would have to disagree with this right here. Family is there to help **if they want to. **I don’t think it’s anyone else’s responsibility to help care for the baby, not dadi nor nani. If they choose to do so, that’s great and is a great help, but to have the expectation that it’s there god given duty to take the baby so the new mom can sleep is wrong in my opinion. Like I said in my post above, expectations lead to disappointments.
My second pregnancy with my twins was extremely high risk. I had numerous complications, was on complete bed rest and had them early at 32 weeks, and I had a toddler to boot! I was staying at my mom’s house M-F and then my husband would come get me and my son friday after noon to Sunday evening. My MIL was in town the entire time at my jait’s just 20 minutes away. She did not step up to help one single day. In fact, she decided to go back to Pakistan exactly 5 days before I went into early labor, knowing full well that I would be delivering any day now. She didn’t even stay to see her twin preemie grandchildren. My heart broke for my husband and at the time I was pissed that she didn’t help out, but I soon realized that it was her choice and her loss. I could either resent her until the end of time or concentrate on my health and babies and make it work. Which I did. Even with my own mother, while I am forever grateful for her help, I never expected anything from her..she did her job raising us, now it’s my turn to raise my own children. I never dumped my duties on her.