Re: In-laws... and strategies to deal with them.
see that's the thing. I've never addressed him directly and yeah he turns 30 next month. He just thinks he's the most good looking guy around.. theyve been searching for a girl for him.. Tbh he never used to be this way. It's only since he went to pakistan to visit my inlaws and came back, I saw this drastic change in him. We used to be pretty decent friends and he would randomly discuss his girl issues or w/e sometimes with me... but eitherways.
Ive now stopped serving to him. Before I would make his lunch every night like I would my hsubands, and then if he would come early, I would literally put the food out in his plate.. but then I saw how he didnt really deserve all this. I dunno.. I was recently married.. I was MA too happy in my own world to analyze how I was puttin extra effort to please someone whom I shouldn't even care for.
and I wish I had the balls to go up to him or so and say my mind out. My marriage's still new.. Ive no idea how my husband would react.. my inlaws would totally blast out on me and once his mom is mad... I know my husband wont take my side. I come from a somewhat conservative family where there is meddling. I can't just take my hsuband away to myself and move out or w/e. My husband is just not that type... hard to explain. Ive however learnt my lesson. I don't give a rat's rear end to my bil anymore. I just make sure Ive done my thing, that is cook food before my husband gets back home. If there's no roti/ or Ive to make chawal for my bil, I don't care to inform him before like I used to. He just comes home... sees what's missing and turns on the rice cooker or goes to get roti himself. I just pray to god that my relationship with my husband doesnt get ruined cuz of him n my mil, who will never be in peace until my husband n i are in peace.. sigh
I wish Allah gives these ppl some hidayat. And I wish my husband to get stronger and bolder to be able to stand up for me in front of his mom... uffff.. hate her so much!!!!!!!