I agree with you RV that no one is truly justified, but what I meant is that people have to understand the MIL's initial resentfulness, if she continues to be resentful, then that;s not right. And this only happens if the DIL attempts to be possessive with her husband from the start (i.e. "I want you to spend time/money with ONLY me"). If she is patient and eases her way into the family, its easier.
It;s different when the daughter's getting married because 1. usually the daughter's behavior or treatment toward her parents or their opinions does not change as drastically after she gets married- you know how the saying goes: "my son is my son until he gets a wife, but my daughter's my daughter all of her life"
fathers don't feel threatened by their daughter;s husband like a mother does her son's wife. I think a mother's greatest fear is that her son will stop caring about her after he gets married. She's sure her daughter will care for her, but not sure about son.
because the maayka never seems as evil as the sasural lol.
and I think the main reason is: 4. it's WOMEN. I;m sorry but i feel it;s true. Women are the ones who complain and make little issues big, reading into things and getting jealous and possesive over their husband's/son's/brother's love, time and money. you rarely see a guy getting angry that his wife is giving her money to her sister/brother, or listening to every word her mother tells her to do
yes they certainly do