One day my aunt phoned and we started talking and i thought she was nice and sympathetic to me because thats what she showed and she just came back from hajj. I shared some things with her that frustrated me about my so. After i got into a fight with him a couple of months ago just when that was cooling off , he has found another thing to get pissed off at me about. I dont know with how with much mirch and masala she spread those things I said to everyone and know he has found out . He is extremely angry and is swearing and threatening me again and telling me how he wishes to hit me and have angry sex because he is so pissed off at me. Do you think he is just angry right now because I dont know how long he has known this, I shared this stuff 13 months ago with her. Or is this really abnormal and he is just using it as more ammunition to get angry with me because of our fight. What should I think of what he is saying ? Please help, this is not a made up story. Should I leave or work on it.
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Angry sex? Wtf!! Leave woman !
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He is a Je*k!!
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Saggirl: When you posted about your fiance's (I assume this is the same guy) issues back in December....people did advise you to break it off. But you insisted that you wanted to work it out. Looks like his personality hasn't changed. He's still immature.
Forget the angry s*x part.....just the fact that he threated to hit you....do you really need others to tell you what you should do? You really can't figure out on your own what to do in a situation where someone threatens you with physical harm?
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Are you married or engaged?
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Don't share things with that aunty again. Don't even bother confronting her because she's not going to admit to it. If you do confront her, she'll run around trying to find out who leaked the story she shared....and that'll not only spread the issue, but create greater animosity as more people get involved. Even if you do know "weak points" about her that she has shared with you......don't use them against her, as she might hurt you in a much worse way. Maintain silence and eventually it'll blow over and people will find something new to gossip about. Let Allah deal with aunti. You can somewhat refute the gossip if you and your SO behave in a way contrary to the news circulating about you.
I don't recall your previous threads. Whether you want to remain in this relationship or leave.....either way it would be best to discuss this with your SO after he's cooled down. If it's uncomfortable for you, it can't be fun for him to know that there is unsavory news circulating about him....so it's understandable that he's hurt/livid though it doesn't justify physical abuse. Learn from your mistake as well; be more discriminating about who you discuss tour personal life with.
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I don't understand your question OP...
Your significant other says he will hit you and have angry sex with you. I assume angry sex is forcing yourself on someone?
And you want a forum of people to TELL you what to do? Because you cannot seem to figure this out for yourself?
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I don't understand your question OP...
Your significant other says he will hit you and have angry sex with you.** I assume angry sex is forcing yourself on someone? ** And you want a forum of people to TELL you what to do? Because you cannot seem to figure this out for yourself?
not really.
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I don't understand your question OP...
Your significant other says he will hit you and have angry sex with you. I assume angry sex is forcing yourself on someone?
And you want a forum of people to TELL you what to do? Because you cannot seem to figure this out for yourself?
Though when I begin to avoid him or threaten to leave if he doesn't stop he gets very sad and depressed. Sometimes he sais he cuts himself and sometimes he sais he will commit suicide because that is the only way out for him if I leave him alone. So I need some fresh unbiased perspective on this. It's a confusing situation.
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This may sound cold....but people like that.....(regardless of gender)....if they really, truly wanted to die...they'd do a thorough job of it. But if they do injure themselves...it's only deep enough to where they'll still live to see you get sucked in by their emotional blackmail and take them back yet again. Romantic, right? And lather, rinse, repeat.
You decide what you want. And if you don't want to be with him, if you don't love him.....then remaining in this relationship is not doing him any favors. You're misleading him and the longer it continues, the longer the period of attachment will be...and the harder and more painful it can become to end things. They may have low self-esteem, but even so they still love/care more about themselves and their own wishes and their ego than they do about you.
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Though when I begin to avoid him or threaten to leave if he doesn't stop he gets very sad and depressed. Sometimes he sais he cuts himself and sometimes he sais he will commit suicide because that is the only way out for him if I leave him alone. So I need some fresh unbiased perspective on this. It's a confusing situation.
your SO sounds like a nutcase
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lol
was an obvious troll even then.
this is the "fatty baldy ugly dog" person. -___-
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Troll!
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Though when I begin to avoid him or threaten to leave if he doesn't stop he gets very sad and depressed. Sometimes he sais he cuts himself and sometimes he sais he will commit suicide because that is the only way out for him if I leave him alone. So I need some fresh unbiased perspective on this. It's a confusing situation.
Who cares?! Who cares if he gets sad and depressed and weeps like a little girl. Is this really attractive to you? A suicidal girly guy? Ewww. You really think he's going to kill himself? If he was going to, he would have done it by now and he wouldn't be telling you about it. This is control...you like being used for control purposes? I feel like you're going to go through a lot of ups and downs before you figure out that your SO is an embarrassment. He is such an embarrassment...Id be ashamed to share breathing space with someone like that.
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Pardon me for asking this questions what is SO...
I have heard about SOBs but not SO, I think SO* would be more apt for him.
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I was thinking the same. 
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Thnx queer for refreshing our memory. I was going to do a quick search for her previous thread.
I think this guy is in pak right. Well angry sex part makes me think he doesn't respect u.
Rest is upto u. We had a person here sometime ago. She had similar problems with her fiancé who swore at her and was disrespectful towards her . Everybody told her time and time again to walk out and she didn't saying she loves him and can't live without him. Last time she posted here, she had gotten married to the same guy, was pregnant and her guy hadn't changed. Things were actually worse cuz she was physically living with him.
So choice and decision r yours. Be wise!
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that was hilarious! 
this situation is not - if she’s not a troll then I feel for you honey 
and you should do what everyone else is saying leave him!
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Pardon me for asking this questions what is SO....
SO = Significant Other; usually used to refer to someone you're in a long-term relationship with (ie. BF). Although in this case, OP seems to be using it to refer to her fiance b/c in her previous thread, she refers to him as her "soon to be husband".
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How does one have angry sex?