In Bad Taste? :S

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Re: In Bad Taste? :S

@redvelvet

I’ve seen girls wear lehngas at wedding…but they’re not as elaborate or fancy as the bride’s…so the bride stands out and that’s the important thing.
Another example was where a former friend got engaged or something (can’t remember the function)…but it was hard to tell who the bride-to-be was because she didn’t stand out. And one of the guests…was a girl who was known to really deck her sellf out with heavy clothes, makeup, and jewelry. So, she looked more like the bride instead. People at the event were saying that they could have made the bride stand out more by having her wear the dupatta over her head.

I went to an engagement and wore an anarkali…no makeup and no jewelry except like a few chooriyaan in each hand. Everyone wore something fancy to the engagement. I was expecting the bride-to-be to be all decked out because she had told me that her outfit cost about $400 and mine only cost $125. However, the bride-to-be was wearing a plain black velvet outfit. there was no work on it what-so-ever. I must say that everyone was outshining her without even trying.. even her own sisters. Guests who didnt know the bride (the guy’s side had never met the bride cuz it was a love thing) thought I was the one getting engaged and stood up when I entered. not sure why maybe because my outfit was pink? Or because mostly all the guests were aunties and I was the only girl her age? I was sooooo embarasseddd!!!
Later the bride-to-be told me that the outfit she wore was the only one that would fit her. So she had to look simple. But I think she could have dressed up the look by adding jewelry and makeup and doing her hair.

@_princess

Another thing that irks me a bit…(example):

On the day of their walima was the first time I was meeting my 2nd cousin’s wife. She began showing us her walima set and, just to make conversation, I asked “Is that the color of your dress?” I was just being friendly…and her reply? “You’ll see tonight, its a secret”…

Another 2nd cousin (same bridezilla I mentioned in one of my earlier posts)…I asked her “what color is your lehenga?” as I was struggling to come up with a topic to talk about and since her favorite topic is her wedding I went with that… Her reply “You’ll see”…umm ok…it’s like no one is going to know exactly what your lehenga looks like if you just mention the color..it’s not even a big deal..I’m not suggesting that brides go around announcing their lehenga choice, however, if asked it seems somewhat rude to give responses as the ones above. Certainly when I get married I would not respond in these ways…(Her [bridezilla’s] future MIL later told everyone the color of the lehenga so so much for keeping it a secret)

heheheheh.. I am the opposite. I show everything to everyone and even wear some of my dahej clothes. I take pics of every outfit I but and show them to ppl who ask about the outfits. Arghhhh I need to stop ruining the big “surprise” lmao

@Reha

I wouldnt mind people wearing lehngas on my wedding.

What I would mind is if they tried to look like a bride themselves.

@saimab33

I honestly wouldnt mind if someone wore their wedding lengha to my wedding. I just got married a few weeks ago, and my cousins wife (they got married in January) wore her barat lengha to my mehndi and her valima lengha to my wedding, and honestly, it didnt bother me one bit! No one mistook her for the bride, and it didnt take anything away from me.

I honestly dont think its a big deal at all, as long as the guest doesnt come decked out in full bridal jewellry and with their dupatta on their head!

reha and saimab, I completely agree. I dont mind my SILs lehenga thing either (she is wearing red to my shaadi day) but she is wearing her bridal set and everything so I just feel like she is trying too hard. She did the same thing for her older bhabhi’s baby shower. She wore her bridal set at the baby shower at home. I think it looked a bit too much. My fiance made fun of her for it but then she said tht oo ur fiance wears big earings all the time. Then my fiance told her tht I wear earings and not with big necklaces with tikka and all. I was just amused. Also wearing baraat lehenga to mrehendi is acceptable but wearing it to someone else’s baraat seems tacky to me. Plus I nefver ever want to be mistaken as the bride again. It feels horrible! I felt guilty without even doing anything wrong