You happen bump into a fascinating guy of Arab descend on phone while inquiring about some other business of life which has nothing to do with ‘relationships’. He falls head over heels for you. You’re not bothered about it as usual And you refuse to meet up inspite of huge amount of insistence cz you’re just not interested
So, the guy travels to some other country far away and makes sure to call you daily to see if you’re okay :love: Then the calls’ duration happen to increase upto 2+ hours per day to make sure you’re okay and to express more and more :love: confessing all that he feels about you.
This goes on for 15 days when finally the guy returns and throws another request to meet up Now you really want to meet him too :love: After a bit of nakhra, you finally agree to. Judging from your feelings, you’re sure that it was gonna be one of its’ kind experience cz your personalities mashed so well that you cant see a reason for why not to meet.
THE occasion arrives… you do not like the way the guy looks to say the least Your nanna munna heart goes crashing cz you had your expectations up high cz of the way the guy sounded all that time. Your feelings turn totally the opposite… like upside down.. after the meeting.
What do you do? Continue to fool him and you that nothing bothered you and you really do not care about how someone looks? Inside your heart, you are extremely uncomfortable for a second meeting or to even ‘talk’ again. Would you still talk to him again? Or see him another time knowing that you cant fake it?
Is LOOKS really that important for a serious long term relationship? Is such demand being a little too materialistic?
I dont have any advice for you, but i have an advice for the guy.
Dude, you stupid dumbass, you just wasted 2+ x 15 = 30+ hrs and (arab country to TNWB domicile hourly rate x 30+ hrs=$$$$$!) on a superficial person who is hung up on looks. Please get back on your camel and ride back into the desert and never come back here, Habib.
hehe, same thing happened to me except I talked to him for months before conceding ... stupid of me to have imagined him as 6 feet tall with dashing good looks. Well turns out he was 6 feet tall, but quite fat, I mean quite!! I was shocked. So I turned him down in a rude fashion, and hurt his feelings. A few months later, realised I really missed him, but by then it was his turn to give me the cold shoulder (!!!) we met up again 6 months later (he came to my house!!!) and this time, he was about 10kg lighter, was wearing a nice shirt, jeans and smelt divine (!!!). He looked good - always had a nice face. I really wanted to kick myself, but he'd decided he wasnt going to wait around for me (I was leaving the country for a year). Aahh well, we still talk on n off ... but nothing coming of it.
TNWB, there is more to a person than their looks. If you two clicked over the phone and you think there is a possibility that the two of you can actually get along, then why not just give it a shot? Is his looks really that bad that you can't get over it and look at his other qualities?
I've had those instances where I was completely disgusted by the sight of someone only to realise how much of an amazing person they and genuinely start to like them. It is possible, but like lazy daisy says, you need to be able to look past his looks.
Mind you, speaking to someone over the phone for 2 weeks isn't much time. It doesn't sound like there has been a lot invested, emotionally, into this 'relationship'.
I know this may sound superficial but looks DO MATTER to some extent, as long as the whole relationship isnt based on them, attraction and looks can be a startin point of a relationshop but not the base of it...for example you can be intruiged or attracted to someones looks to get to know them better and consequently fall for them. For me personally, being attracted to a potential partner is very important but thats not to say they have to be stunning, just attractive to my eyes as everyone finds different things beautiful.
How did your feelings go so far for him when you didn't know what he looked like? He must have a uber nice voice. Anyway just be honest, bechara no need to fool him or play with his mind.
I agreed with Belle here. If you really aren't interested, then just end it. Don't lead him on. You wouldn't like it if someone did the same thing to you. Remember to always put yourself in the other person's shoes.
My fiance was 135lbs when we first met and now after over 4 years he is a mota genda of 155lbs!! BUT i don't care, I'm more happier with him than I was before because there's alot more I love about his looks and personality than just his weight...I think he's VERY attractive! :)
^CRPTANGEL, you think he is attractive because you are an anti-social guppan :)
I am shallow and superficial too, i mean extremely. I never never ever talk to girl or show interest without finding out what she looks like first. Because when you do, and then find out she is "below par," you hurt her more by severing contact with her abruptly. But then if you dont do it abruptly so as not to hurt her feelings, you do double wrong by leading her on in a false pursuit. Shameful eitherway.
So what do you do when u get her pic and u dont like wat u c? That’s still abrupt. Yeah i’ts shameful, but it’s a sad truth and we all do it whether we wanna admit it or not.
Yeah, he was skinny back then…his height is 5’10. Anyways, he’s not really “fat”, he just looks a little heavier compared to me(I’m underweight). I have seen your pics and you look over 6 ft tall so I guess you’re probably underwight or normal.
The first sentence in your post does not make sense at all. Anyways, you didn’t have to state you’re shallow or superficial, most of your posts turn out to be pretty shallow and narrowminded anyway. Not to forget quite ugly as well !
And you refuse to meet up inspite of huge amount of insistence cz you’re just not interested 
Now you really want to meet him too :love: After a bit of nakhra, you finally agree to. Judging from your feelings, you’re sure that it was gonna be one of its’ kind experience cz your personalities mashed so well that you cant see a reason for why not to meet.
Your nanna munna heart goes crashing cz you had your expectations up high cz of the way the guy sounded all that time. Your feelings turn totally the opposite… like upside down.. after the meeting.