In a mess and what to do....

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Re: In a mess and what to do…

@redvelvet

OP, I looked at your title a few seconds ago and how it says “Don’t know what to do”. The TRUTH is that you DO know deep down what you should do…you just don’t want to do it. So maybe you’re hoping that someone on this website will try to validate your lifestyle/choices or perhaps make a suggestion where you won’t have to make the kind of sacrifice you don’t want.

I understand that people sometiems seek advice to sort out their thoughts/feelings. But I think it’s kinda strange that you’re asking for advice about this. I mean what kind of different advice were you hoping from anonymous people on an online forum that you won’t also get from your friends and family?

I looked at your older threads from last year and once again you’re asking the same question and you’ve received the same advice. If it didn’t make a difference the last time…what are you hoping for now? If you yourself have no sincere desire/will power to change…then all the advice in the world will not help. For ONE PERSON…you are risking Allah’s punishment, your reputation, your sanity/peace of mind, and you’re hurting your husband/your kids/and families from both sides. Don’t you find that to be selfish? Maybe it’s idealistic for me to say this…but I think if a person “truly” loves someone…they won’t engage in actions that would put their loved one at jeopardy. By maintaining a relationship with you…this guy doesn’t have much regard for your reputation and family…he’s putting you at risk…so does he “truly” love you? From your previous thread…I’m guessing that your boyfriend…who was your ex…is also married. Do you truly love him if you’re putting him in a situation where there’s so much at stake? Something to think about.

@Niksik

Don’t think about this any further.

Make a conscious decision to STOP thinking about it. Quit cold turkey. That’s the ONLY way out.

^^words of wisdom right here OP listen…PLEASE!!!