I think it may be a little too simplified to say that he can get his laundry done at the dry cleaners and get food and sex from outside. While these things CAN be done....it is rather inconvenient (in terms of time, money, health) and there are religious restrictions as well. Not many people enjoy being in a tense home environment.....it's awkward and disturbs your peace of mind and can prevent you from focusing on other things...even those that you enjoy. I do think that creating some distance between yourself and the person (as enigmatic suggested) CAN work. It may be viewed as a sanction....but in general it's hard for most people to communicate comfortably when their upset and it lets the person know that things are not cool in the relationship and require fixing. I'm not saying this always works....but it can if both parties care about one another. And Gaia has put forth some other good alternatives/suggestions as well.
I just read this term in another thread and it got me to thinking. It probably involves denying him favors in bed right? Suppose husband doesnt really care about those favors. Suppose what you want to achieve by denying him sex is getting him to stop gambling/smoking/drugs whatever, and he just isnt interested in that.
What other "sanctions" are to be imposed? Or is sex just it when people say "impose sanctions on him"?
I think imposing "sanctions" on your spouse is an immature way of dealing with issues, period.
I would've thought that witholding sex for a long time would be more likely to backfire..
yes, because are wives not meant to like sex or something? denying him means denying yourself. duh.
why would you impose sanctions anyway? is conversation dead?
and you can't change someones habits anyway if they don't want to so its pretty pointless in the end.
i dont understand why you wanna deny sex to achieve something?... what would you achieve... you will suffer too...right?
......if you wanna tease then demand sex twice a day and if he denies... than start hitting on his friends...OR start passing *meaningful *comments on him infront of his loved ones .. lol .....
Send him back to his parents and tell them you'll take him back when he is a grown up man and doesn't spend his time playing computer games like a schoolboy.
I think the silent treatment for me would be the worst of all sanctions, even if the girl is extremely talkative. Actually, ESPECIALLY if the girl is talkative.
Would be more like a punishment.
The denial of sex may be "stupid, barbaric, immature" and so on, but I recall it being a step in the Quranic recommendation for disciplining wives - verbal admonishment and beating her (lightly, of course) with a toothbrush being the other 2 steps. You'd never think sex sanctions and toothbrush beating would work wonders in resolving marital discord, but there ya go.
