Imposing sanctions on the husband

Lifestyle Relationships
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I just read this term in another thread and it got me to thinking. It probably involves denying him favors in bed right? Suppose husband doesnt really care about those favors. Suppose what you want to achieve by denying him sex is getting him to stop gambling/smoking/drugs whatever, and he just isnt interested in that.

What other “sanctions” are to be imposed? Or is sex just it when people say “impose sanctions on him”?

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it is more than that.
* cooking tasteless food
* delaying husband's related work (ironing etc)
* silent treatment etc

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shutting up isn’t one of the sanctions at least… it is sorta a gift. :hehe:

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A man who doesn't care about sex?

Hahahaha that's a funny one!

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agreed

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these are all things which have alternatives

order out, do it yourself, and thank god she shut up for once!

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:emmy:

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I really dont mean to be contradictory, Im quite interested to know.

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find out weak points where one can easily be annoyed.

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what if you deny and goes looking for it somewhere else? bigger mess

he starts eating outside?
he gets it done by dry cleaner?
im sure he wont die if she doesnt talk to him for a month?

all these things such a guy can find somewhere else - the idea imo is to see how is this kind of a guy really dependant on, that wife has to do (if this indeed is the right approach, denying)

IMPO denying him (considering his behaviour/character) is not the right approach no matter how smartly you do it

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speaking about sanctions, STA:

how possible is it for a husband to tell his wife to go sleep on the couch? for whatever reason she did wrong

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That was my point exactly SK, that denying a husband anything doesnt really work.

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SK: what would you suggest?

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aha - tough question bro

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thread one can pick is taking the husband away from such habits, if smart enough she can keep him occupied in other things - see solution to a particular situation may be easy to come up with rather than general suggestions

but remembering one can only do and tolerate so much

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hmmm…never really thought about this. Some good ideas. :hmmm:

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think about it hareem! and tell us what you come up with!

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i think silent treatment irks them the most and so do monosyllable replies. Most of the time they are complaining about how much we talk ..so when it’s time to overturn everything, it works like a super antibiotic…very very bitter but oh so effective :halo:

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lets take an example here, STA bear with me -

a husband is playing ps3 intense gaming going on coz the new MW3 just came out, now there are various options, a wife CAN:

  • take him for grocery coz she cant lift heavy grocery bags obviously
  • put tasty cooked food infront of him
  • ask him to get the heavy bag of rice/atta from the basement coz u need it asap
  • call his parents and make him talk to them
  • knowing ahead of time, call friends over
  • make him shovel the snow coz you need to take the care out
  • etc
  • etc

sky is the limit folks

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yeah, that is what i meant. but again it is not permanent fix. how long one can play this game and may be ended with big fight.

i m more toward calm verbal discussion on issue rather than making it complicated.

i m agree with following opinions.

[http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-and-relationships/528684-the-first-slap-where-to-draw-the-line.html#post8570496

http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-and-relationships/528684-the-first-slap-where-to-draw-the-line.html#post8570605](http://www.paklinks.com/gs/life-and-relationships/528684-the-first-slap-where-to-draw-the-line.html#post8570496)

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Sanctions depend on the type of husband/wife. And sanctions can also be positive.

Counselling sessions: between just us two. Do this for at least 1-2 months to see if there is any improvement.

Than taking control of our finances, just incase he decides to empty us out.

Next, silent treatment.

Next an ultimatum of him discussing this with his parents, and if he doesn't than I will on his behalf. This means counselling sessions between him and his parent(s) on a weekly bases.

Next would be professional help.