Re: importing groom from home country :-\
The love is not presence since the very beginning in an arranged rishta. You are right that these issues should be discussed well in advance. However, these things are not totally on control of a person and if a husband has to move somewhere else, I don’t think its an issue which should be a basis for a wife to get divorce from her husband.
Even if a girl born and bred outside Pakistan has much more to offer to her husband, if a guy is marrying her for the sole purpose of getting settled abroad, there is much risk involved since most of the guys and their families back in Pakistan do consider girls bred outside Pakistan as NOT shareef and much more liberal and modern and they fear that these girls lack the ability to be good wives. When majority of the guys and their families in the West try to get ‘seedhi and shareef’ girls from back home for shaadi, imagine what the guys and their families back home would think of us when they judge us for our sharafat and ability to become good wives.