i know ppl take me as very religious (which i dont know why. its not that i mind it but it i dont think that i deserve to call me something noble which i am not)
kher the concern here is not about me.
i want to ask, if someone thinks of themselves as “holier-than-thou” does it effect any relationship?
and how one can fix someone, cuz these ppl know a lot but their implementation is ZERO when it comes to Huqooq-ul-bad.
they will pray five times a day, but they wont respect anyone around them.
is praying 5 times a day, everything to judge someone’s character, especially calling them Religious?
and not only that, if someone also trying to pray, they pin point their ways of praying. ok i dont mind it since we should always be learning, but sometimes they are mocking.
and another thing, i see many guys asking for religious girls. what exactly is your definition of a religious girl? i mean her aik ka iman to apnay leya hota, na k kisi or k leya
Guys with a little religous knowledge knows that being the head of the family they are answerable to Allah (SWT) for their actions, deeds, earnings and also answerable for the brought up of family and the religous practicing of themselves, wife & childeren…
In simple words he is under fire in this world and world after…
Why do people opne up obvious and dumb threads like this:
Howevr to the topic:
Zob's, praying 5 times does not make you a abtter muslim than another.
Only God knows who has the best heart.
However, and indicator of a pious person is one who does not do a good-deed to show off.
An example is of: a person is that whos gives charity from his right hand while his left does not know.
AP let mullah version of islam go!!!
1-namaz relaxes us.
2-We pray about our priorities.
3-we get charged and more focused,
U realize when we pray do don't send presents to allah??? (neither he needs it)
So its all for US!!!!!!
If zobia pray 5 times a day she would SURELY utilize her qualities better then me and you,
She will be more focused. And probably go farther in life!!!!
PlayStaion:: isalm ky dushmano!!!!:: we do what we do:: If i pray ,did i ask you to make me imam masjid????? NO!!! I do it because I like it. just like hhhmmmmmm say running,
PlayStaion2:: leave practicing ppl ALONE!!!! Chances are they are close to reality then me/U.
^ Well, Islam is supposed to be a way of life and its teachings cover all aspects of life...not just the practices....but character and social interactions as well. So, it makes things easier if both partners believe in their religion and have the desire to practice it SINCERELY. It's more challenging when both partners are not on the same page regarding this matter.....or even pages apart.
People who pray five times a day but treat others like dirt are not following their religion sincerely. Your namaz is supposed to help guard you against bad deeds/shameful acts.
So how do u deal with a person who thinks they are more religious because they pray five times a day and treat others like crap? **
1)** Well try communicating with the person. When having a discussion.....start of by sharing this person's positive points.....and then point out areas of concern. People are more likely to be receptive of suggestions if you praise them first.
2) Become a good example for this person. Demonstrate to this person how to respect others in social interactions. Let this person see your positive behavior.
*3) * Understand that you are not going to be judged by this person. You will be judged by Allah as an individual. Your success or failure in this world and the next does not depend upon this person's opinion of you. So, continue growing as an individual.
4) Such relationships can be toxic. Perhaps this person has some psychological disorder such as Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). In this disorder the person thinks that he is superior to everyone else in either looks, ability, intelligence, or religion. The perception of arrogance is so extreme that the individual has little empathy for others and does not realize his/her mistakes or make amends for them....and this gets in the way of forming successful relationships. The individual might need professional help. Or guidance from an Imam.
5) If the relationship has become dysfunctional and is taking a toll on one's health and well being. Then it's best to end the relationship and liberate yourself. Or at least maintain a distance if the former option is not entirely feasible.
I gave a rather small but nevertheless sincere piece if advice.
and you tell me off.
how am i acting 'holier-than-you'?
And please isnt it obvious, if some-ones does try to act blatently holier than you-you tell them straight that if they r doing something just to show to u or others than it remains only for that (hidden shirk as u know), and not for God.
And isnt it obvious, ones right or wrong depends from what school of thut you are?
I mean its obvious, if someone is shafi, you are hanafi, and they pray accoding to shafi, you pray according to hanafi, no one is right or wrong, no one is better than the other
Both schools are deemed acceptable in sunni sect.
If someone questions your act of worship, as long as you know your doing it correctly according to your fiqh tell them shut it. Othwerise mayb you shoud consider thier advice.
Saley ko aur Maro…
nicely put…but aik majboor insaan ko mazeed marnay kia faida?
oh hell no! how could I forget that piece of work!