Re: Importance of education/qualification
Behave guys. Stick to the topic please.
Re: Importance of education/qualification
I think most prefer if their husband is equally or more accomplished than them. However, I think that all a man really needs is the respect of his wife, and if she is able to respect him even if he is less accomplished, then good for them. All these people who say "compatibility is the only thing that matters"- this is true initially. But as the years go on, little things come up, and in one argument, a wife may say something like "whatever, I make more money" or "I'm more educated" or "i come from a better family" etc. you get the picture. The hidden superiority complex reveals itself. The wife may develop a superiority complex with the husband and/or in-laws. Or the man may feel inferior and be constantly irritated at his wife's achievements and not want her to be successful.
It's nice to be idealistic and believe that love is everlasting if you meet your compatible soulmate, but there's a reason people get divorces even though they loved each other before.
I think most prefer if their husband is equally or more accomplished than them. However, I think that all a man really needs is the respect of his wife, and if she is able to respect him even if he is less accomplished, then good for them. All these people who say "compatibility is the only thing that matters"- this is true initially. But as the years go on, little things come up, and in one argument, a wife may say something like "whatever, I make more money" or "I'm more educated" or "i come from a better family" etc. you get the picture. The hidden superiority complex reveals itself. The wife may develop a superiority complex with the husband and/or in-laws. Or the man may feel inferior and be constantly irritated at his wife's achievements and not want her to be successful.
It's nice to be idealistic and believe that love is everlasting if you meet your compatible soulmate, but there's a reason people get divorces even though they loved each other before.
Ha ha ha. I agree with you about superiority complex and husband get irritated y achievements of his wife's success and won't let her do anything. But you forgot other side of coin that wife couldn't get superiourity complex but HUSBAND and IN LAWS become jealous of her super duper education, wealth, jahaiz and everthing.
One of my cousin got married to an engineer girl with green card he is engineer too. Girl went to Pakistan and marry a poor guy. Now He cooks she teaches him and he gets better marks than her. He does cleaning and everything and girl doesn't do anything.
I don't know who is the bread winner but girls owns her own house before marriage and they work at same place and girl got him job.
NJ!! You GO girl!!!!
I totally agree with this. Men need to feel like they're in control and we have to help them feel that way!
This is soooooooooooooooooooooo true! Everytime there is a bright idea, I have to go around in circles so somehow HE comes up with it and once he does, its just brilliant!
That doesn't mean you are brilliant that is called manupulation or fraud and smartness is when you convince him from logics and everything. In my humble opinion.
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^ Its not fraud at all Heera, dont get emotional. I think you misunderstood.
Men need to feel like they're in control. Thats pretty obvious. If the wife is the one taking initiatives all the time, he doesnt like it. So, we take a step back and create a situation in which we dont have to push you. Of course, we use logic and all but the point is, he has to come up with it.
Its simply trying to help a guy see my point of view without spending hours and hours convincing him.
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Yeah men are like that.
I'm a man so are you trying to put me down. J/K.
Re: Importance of education/qualification
Im not putting you down!