Hi,
I was wondering that,will a woman like to marry a man who is less educated/qualified than her?Or will any man like to marry a woman who is more educated/qualified than him?How much importance does the education/qualification of a spouse hold in a relationship?
What are your thoughts on this?
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It totally depends upon the people involved and what they want their lives to be, whether they share the same ideals and ideas.
For me, it worked so well that hubby and I both have the same education and worked together in the same field for a number of years. I can so relate to what his day is like, what goes on in the office and if he feels like talking about it, I know exactly what he's talking about.
That doesnt mean I think all couples should be that way. The person I admire most on the planet is my SIL who is beautiful, always happy and smiling, always welcoming to guests, always has her house clean, cares for her kids better than supernanny, is such a good cook that she could have her own cooking show, grows gardens that please the eye and produce food for all her numerous guests. She never graduated from high school. Her hubby is a college grad with a few businesses of his own. And they have a model marriage, model home, model kids.
So it all comes down to individuals I think - people who choose their mate well so that they live their lives in the way that they like to and want to. If you marry one hoping to change them, if you marry one who has different views and desires than you - you're looking for trouble.
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its irrelevent IMHO
my brothers wife is a doctor while my brother is an engineer they have a happy marriage
my wife was a medical doctor like me but we ended up getting divorced
education today basically mean earning potential so if you are in a high paying proffession everyone is dying to get married to you
but someone might be very well educated but in a low paing job e.g PHD in history , arts but they are not considered as good matches
its materialism that drives compatibility
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As long as he gets me my Tiffany an Gucci who cares.....:@:
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^ i rest my case
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A lot of education can either make you a refined person or a snob. I think if either partner is more educated, but does not look down upon their spouse for not having enough education, it could work out well. If you're too preoccupied with how much money you make or how educated you are, then any real balance becomes hard to achieve.
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I remember learning in a class or reading somewhere that marriages tend to work better if the couple has similar educational/socio-economic/cultural/religious backgrounds. I guess this has been an observation. HOWEVER....I also feel that there are exceptions to the generalization.
Although people have their individual preferences about what qualities they want in their future spouse, the success of a marriage depends on several factors besides education. A marriage is so complex that more than a degree is involved in making the relationship work.
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I dont think it SHOULD be taken into consideration too much but people do it nevertheless.
I know a couple: the girl has a BS and the guy is a high school graduate. He works at a gas station. They are miserable and I hope Allah swt makes things better for them, Inshallah. :(
I also know a couple: the girl is a high school graduate but the guy has a Masters...their home is thriving. They have two kids, a house and are so happy Mashallah.
So, to me it seems as if the girl can be (doesnt have to be) less educated then the guy and things will be fine. But if the guy is less educated then the girl or doesnt have the means to support, the marriage suffers.
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Education, wealth and all that are just side things - their mental compatibility is what matters the most - what they want out of life and their way of going about it.
It doesn't really depend that much on education, but also on the character and personal interests.
I've met some people with whom I shared the love for a sport or a book or whatever. We discussed those and they were fun to talk to, very interesting conversations. Some of those people were highly educated, there were also less educated or average educated people there. But they were all equeally interesting.
I think for most people education/qualification is very important for personal reasons. For me, if I would have been more educated, I could have had a nice job and enough money. Also the job offers would have been more interesting. Now I get offered boring work which also doesn't pay much, like cleaning jobs or when I do get a job offer what I got my average diploma for, they want only people for night shifts.
I think for reasons like these people find proper education/qualification very important.
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I always like a guy to be MORE educated than a girl.
I like the guy to be MORE smarter than the girl.
I always like the guy to earn MORE than the girl.
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I think that although some poeple don't want to care about the education differences they may have between their spouse, they might end up caring. It can cause differences in so many things, like how much you get paid...how your conversation flow and how you think of each toher.
But, if you have a relationship filled with compromises and love and respect for each other where you don't think one of you is higher than the other...it will eventually fade away or may never show up.
I hope it made sense :\
I always like a guy to be MORE educated than a girl. I like the guy to be **MORE smarter **than the girl. I always like the guy to earn MORE than the girl.
Isn't that usually (read always) the case? ha ha
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Depends entirely on the individuals! I know a couple who had a love marriage, girl is a denist and the guy drives a taxi, and mashallah theyre one of the happiest couples i know. He doesnt have a problem with her earning more cause he understands how hard she worked to get where she is now, whereas he dropped outta school with about 4 GCSEs i think.
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I think smartness and intellect can exist without much formal education. So if one partner is more educated, but other is smart/intellectual, adjusting wouldn't be much of a problem. Otherwise the more educated partner who presumably associates with professionals like him/her, can get taken over by regret.
I always like a guy to be MORE educated than a girl. I like the guy to be MORE smarter than the girl. I always like the guy to earn MORE than the girl.
Isn't that usually (read always) the case? ha ha
No way !!!!
You are mistaken buddy.
Usually when the girl is smarter - the guy feels "threatened"... They want to look and be smarter than the girl.
Depends entirely on the individuals! I know a couple who had a love marriage, girl is a denist and the guy drives a taxi, and mashallah theyre one of the happiest couples i know. He doesnt have a problem with her earning more cause he understands how hard she worked to get where she is now, whereas he dropped outta school with about 4 GCSEs i think.
That's an odd profession couple for sure. We would never know how much they argue over things or NOT.
As a taxi driver - the hours must be demanding. Of course a dentist's hours can be fixed per day.
Do they have any kids yet? I think once a couple has a child, EVERYTHING changes. The child's needs are many, and there are only certain hours in a day. The dentist mom - if she decides to STAY AT HOME - she will have to compromise plenty. Fights are bound to be - no doubt!
It's very difficult to have a man in your life who earns less. You always tend to compare your "friends" husbands and how much better off they are and all that stuff.
So nothing is easy in life. From the outside everything looks good. Everyone ELSE looks happy. Even the odd couples look like they are enjoying life.
It's only the person going through, knows better.
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^^ ive spent a lot of time with them and i honestly dont think ive seen them fight more than is expected from a maried couple. i know he only works night on a weekend so they spend most of the week like any working couple, out during the day, together in the evening. id like to hope they are as happy as they look but i guess youre right, you can never really know.
and no they dont have kids yet, i dont think theyre very child orientated as they both came from very small families.