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I know a girl whose planning on becoming a teacher soon, and she wants to marry a guy who works in a fruit store (he came into the country illegally). Once married she plans on keeping him home all day and being the breadwinner of the family. I wonder how thats gonna work out.
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It's not important to me.
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What matters more is compatibility. Doesnt really matter if she is more educated.
Having said that, if she tries to act cocky and rub it in my face, she gets it.
I know a girl whose planning on becoming a teacher soon, and she wants to marry a guy who works in a fruit store (he came into the country illegally). Once married she plans on keeping him home all day and being the breadwinner of the family. I wonder how thats gonna work out.
Riya, you know some very interesting people!!
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I know many people in my community who are successful women, and their husbands stay at home. Mashallah they're doing well. There's even one that I know whose husband went to prison for money laundering, (and he's out now) and the wife is a dentist. Mashallah they are very happy now that he's out of prison!
Sometimes the breadwinner wife thing doesn't work for some people, however. So it just depends on what kind of person you are, and what your preferences are.
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Money makes everything.
Money makes everything.
Dude, if you end up with a hideous, cocky, stupid, hairy, nagging old bech with lots of money, you would be one happy man!
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Very few people who say money doesn't matter, really understand the meaning of the claim. Those who claim that money is everything, are stupid.
Very few people who say money doesn't matter, really understand the meaning of the claim. Those who claim that money is everything, are stupid.
What does it have to do with one being more educated than the other?
Like someone mentioned before, one could be very educated and making chit money. And it could be the other way around.
Very few people who say money doesn't matter, really understand the meaning of the claim. Those who claim that money is everything, are stupid.
Money DOES matter...money problems can break a relationship...money can destroy families. Lack of money can be a horrible thing to go through.
However...is money a creator or relationships? No. Should money make a family? No. Should money be the driving force behind a couple being together? Absolutely not.
Its simple: Work hard to get to where you want in life but dont let that success and power define who you are. Be humble and realize money comes...to go.
Education, wealth and all that are just side things - their mental compatibility is what matters the most - what they want out of life and their way of going about it.
Well said. Often education is a reflection of one's intellect, but it is not the be all and end all. And it should not solely be used to measure a potential partner.
We all know some people who are complete idiots and wonder what institution in their right mind could have granted them an accredited degree. On the other hand, there are many self-made, super geniuses who have never gotten their Bachelor's.
Money doesn't make happy, we all know that. But money does make life easier.
In my personal opinion people who say that money is everything, are wrong, because even if you have money, your personal relationships with friends or family can be problematic, and still cause unhappiness.
The people who say that money is not necesary for happiness, are wrong too (again in my own personal opinion), because money makes life easier, you can have enough food and you can buy the things you need.
This reminds me, in a few weeks or maybe days, my belongings are going to be taken away from me. I've accepted that now. If I would have had money, I could have paid what those people want me to and then I could have kept all my things. So money would have made my life easier, but yet it can't give me complete happiness, because it doesn't solve problematic relationships with friends and family.
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I dont think that education plays any part.In my own family,my sis in laws is a M.Sc in mathematics from Punjab university Lahore AND a position holder.Where as her hubby is hardly a graduate and i am not even sure if he did it from a proper college or not.And i must say they are a wonderful couple.Very loving and caring,.And needless to say,it was an arrange marriage and i has worked out quite well so far.
Us New Yorkers are a colorful bunch of people 
It doesn't really depend that much on education, but also on the character and personal interests.
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I agree with this...
Zabardast question and I’m answering after reading first post.
I think It’s very importan to be educated. Taleem insaan ko bohat kuch sikha deta hai aur us main bohat si changing lata hai. Insaan jitna taleemyafta hota hai utna hi muhazzab, tameezdaar aur bashaur hota hai siwaay chund aik kay.
Taleem ka ghara asar parta hai insaan ki shakhshiaat par. Taleem insaan ko haywan say insaan banati hai.
Jitna jahil hotay hain utnay hi budtameez hotay hain.
Jitna taleem hoga utna achcha hi behaviour ho ga spouse ka is liaay kay samajhnay ki salahiaat bohat achchi ho jaay gi taleem kay saath. Agar deeni taleem say labraiz hon to phir to kia kahna.
Aksariaat ghalat ya gunah kay kaam unjaan honay ki wajah say kartay hain siwaay chund kay jo jannay kay bawajood jaan boojh kar kartay hain.
Jaisay jub aik larki parhi likhi ho gi to wo apni taleem ki salhiaaton say bahtar tor par zindagi ki gari ko husband kay saath chalaay gi.
Buchchon ko achchi taleem say bhi roshnaas karaay gi/ga Jaisay ziadatar taleem yafta logon kay buchchay hi taleemyafta aur jahilon kay buchchay jahil hotay hain.
Meri nazar main spouse chunnay main sub say number 1 taleem hai. Sub say pehlay taleem daikhna chahyay. Jitna ziada say ziada taleem ho utna achcha hai. Duniawi kay saath saath deeni taleem bhi ho.
Meray hisaab say husband ko wife say ziada taleem yafta hona chahyay takay degree main bhi wife say bara ho aur izzat karnay ki aik aur wajah add ho sakay.
Meray hissab say Doctor ki shadi doctor say engineer ki shadi engineer say aur M.Sc. ki shadi B.Sc (larki) say honi chahay takay aik doosray ko ziada bahtar tor par samajh sakain aur compatible hon. Aik doosray say apni job ko discuss kar sakain aur aik doosray ki discussion ko samajh sakain aur mashwara waghaira bhi dain sakain. Agar help ki zaroorat ho to help kar sakain.
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what means education/qualification to you thread-starter, how do you define education, qualification? 80 % what I learnt in school, I don't need today, I should have spent these 80 % on the understanding of the Qur'an, Bible, Thora and the secular views. It would have been so good if we would have the schools which existed 800-900 years ago...Memorized the Qur'an by the Age of 10, then studied Religion, Philosophy, Politics and economical Politics instead of wasting 15 years of school and having gained nothing...
because someone has education it doesn't mean he/she is superior over others! This is the Problem of this world. My wife is not on the education level like me, but this is because she is Ahmadi, lives in Pakistan and Ahmadis barely have a chance to become something in Pakistan. In fact they are not humans. Anyway. Keep in mind who taught you and granted you knowledge! It is Allah who taught the human being thru the feather, so that he may praise the Lord, the exalted, the Almighty! He can give and take...
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Education is there to create a personality out of a human, the only difference between the educated person and illiterate is of decency and language. A educated person is one carries following traits
1) Tolerance
2) High Moral Values ( compare to the society they live in)
3) Respect for others
4) Living with difference of opinion
And last not least a Fear Of Allah.
On the other hand, uneducated person is the one who has every thing opposite.
An illiterate person also develop a kind of psychological diseases like EGO, inferiority complex etc... these diseases won't allow this person to accept the truth, all he sees is, what his mind shows him, this kind of person have no-tolerance for difference of opinion, so they try to attack each and every difference with the rubbish language.. so that everyone should fear from their tongue and list goes own.
It is not recommended to bound the two in a marriage relation, it can be receipe of disaster.
PS: Illiterate person is the person, who may be a SCHOLAR but lack the basic of moral and decency.
I know 2-3 people that are Quran Haffiz's, yet NO company has employed them uptill now :) they've been trying for the past 5 years. It's a vicious cycle.. education ---> jobs---> big bucks!
In order to secure a good job in a reputed company you need a cv with qualifications.. they won't ask u to recite Surah Muzammil at the interview. (this is a seperate debate all-together, yes the Quran teaches us a way of life!)
p.s. Jaanwar, aaj phir naashta nahin mila kiya?
Education is there to create a personality out of a human, the only difference between the educated person and illiterate is of decency and language. A educated person is one carries following traits 1) Tolerance 2) High Moral Values ( compare to the society they live in) 3) Respect for others 4) Living with difference of opinion And last not least a Fear Of Allah.
On the other hand, uneducated person is the one who has every thing opposite.
An illiterate person also develop a kind of psychological diseases like EGO, inferiority complex etc... these diseases won't allow this person to accept the truth, all he sees is, what his mind shows him, this kind of person have no-tolerance for difference of opinion, so they try to attack each and every difference with the rubbish language.. so that everyone should fear from their tongue and list goes own.
It is not recommended to bound the two in a marriage relation, it can be receipe of disaster.
PS: Illiterate person is the person, who may be a SCHOLAR but lack the basic of moral and decency.
Exactly.