Importance Of Caste In Marriage

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In pakistan,people have different castes likeJatt,Malik,Awan,Sheikh,Aryian,Syed,Mughal,Pathan and more but that becomes a real barrier when parents have to marry thier children as it’s a common behaviour of our society that we put too much emphasize on marrying in the family with same caste or atleast at the same superior level,in some families even amrriage outside one’s caste is prohibited due to which many girls are forced to marry inside thier family too.
Thier are also some castes like Manihir, Dhobi, Gaddi and Teli or Mochi etc which are considered very inferior and people aviod to make any relationships,even if these families are well-established,they will be disliked or disrespected.I know islam condemens such discrimination on the basis of race,creed,ethinicty,or color but no one can deny that Muslims are practicing this behaviour since long.But one important aspect regarding caste is that thier are certain good/bad things/attributes attached with each caste too,which cannot be overlooked easily.
My question to you is
When you will be getting married and looking up for ur life partener,would u care so much about the caste of ur future spouse or you would be willing to marry with anyone having inferior caste but u think u have good compatibility and u r least bothered?

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I think we're living in an age where that stuff should not matter, and there is no logically good reason for it to matter.

Marrying a younger girl?
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lol doesnt matter to me at all

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But desis aren't always so logical remember :p

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chup..dun say a word against masoom ppl:mad: pakistanis r more logical then most of so called muslim arabs r.:halo: .. ..now what was the topic…oh yeh…marrying out caste thingi..i dun have any prob marrying a girl who is mochi /musalli /tarkhaan /lohar or whatever…i dun care..we r muslims and we shouldn,t let caste to play any kind of role in marriage… and i hate ppl who dun marry other muslims just cuz they think the r somehow better then them:o …we (pakistanis) really need to change these backward and unislamic traditions…

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i've always wondered who i'm going to end up marrying, since i'm half and half. would i stick with my dad's side, or my mom's or some totally new thingy?

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As much as we on here would like to say that we shouldn't let caste play a part, in reality it does. It means absolutely nothing to me, but evrything to my dad. So I assume anyone I want to marry will have to be of the same caste as me, or my dad probably won't even consider the proposal.

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Zarra socho.. i knw its hard, but try..

Exactly what is “rational” abt limiting yourself or forbidding one from marrying someone of a different caste? That jatt or rajputs or watever r better than another caste is just bull. It has no place in Islam.

And since lots of desis (more of hte older generation than the newer) like to limit themselves only to a certain group, (some will only marry their cousins, no outsiders ever allowed), only certain castes watever, then well that’s not very rational or smart is it? :rolleyes: This has nothing to do with arabs vs pakis or pakis vs americans, anyone who limits themselves ONLY to certain castes is just a moron.

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thora sa muje gupshup par kheelnai bi nahi daity.:naraz: .u mean baji.:teary1: ..waisai i agree with what u said:) …i never got why pakistani take this caste stuff so seriously:confused: …

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caste system do exixt in pakistan especially in remote areas,and mostly people marry there son s and daughters in their castes:chai: thanx GOD my famiily dont follow it now:)as i am not married in my caste.

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u said dun say anything against “masoom ppl” coz i said desis aren’t rational (when it comes ot caste bzness).. iss mein kya ghalti thi? :confused:

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When you will be getting married and looking up for ur life partener,would u care so much about the caste of ur future spouse or you would be willing to marry with anyone having inferior caste but u think u have good compatibility and u r least bothered?
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Lot of people here have condemned the caste thing in our culture. I am against it personally. If you want to go by islamic teachingz then the criteria for mate selection is more about inner beauty and character than the outward appearance and the glittery attractions. Our society discriminates in lot of ways against people who are not wealthy, pretty, tall, educated, sociable or belong to a lower class. If you want to bring islam into this then all these things should not matter. The only criteria should be the islamic criteria based on being a good practicing muslim/muslimah with good character. We should be aware of the other ugly discrimination in our society which is above the caste issue. 99% of the time people will not marry even within the same caste because of the differences in their economic and social status.

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to me...it doesnt matter...not at alll!!
to my parents it means alot but they wont make it a big deal if they have to marry off my siblings in other cast inferior to mine.as its 21st century for God sake.lool

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Caste, class, status, color and faith; every one thinks about it before they choose their partner unless the person shatters the pigeonhole.

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I don't think Caste is the correct term, may be you mean 'Tribe" "Qabeela" or "Quam" Yes people tend to stay within their Quam, but as far as Islam goes the ruling is to stay within the economic strata (Nisaab)for the least amount of friction and or intolerant and incensitive remarks by third parties who are out there just to make your life miserable.
"But Love can conquer all obstacles" Right?

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Faith is a valid consideration.. status/class maybe to some extent but still sorta unimportant, same as caste and color..

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These days we dont hear these things... i only hear this issue among syeds....

Which is a huge contradiction on its own...

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^ I have heard the same thing about Punjabis.

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^ same can be said abt pathaans..
i dont’ think its a purely cultural thing, that more syeds or punjabis or pathaans do that stuff, more like individual choice to stick to only your own caste (or family in most cases :rolleyes: )

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Again, some ABCDs/BBCDs/CBCDs are hell bent on finding faults. They know they will marry their girlfriends/boyfriends, yet they like to find faults in desis :cb:

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