Image of what a real woman or man is like

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when/where did the men and women here form this idea of what women/men are really like?

mother, sister,father, brother, guy/girl friends…who or from what? romance novels, movies?

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Do you mean physically?

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ok that too, like how a woman should be physically i guess if that's what your focusing on but i meant overall.
physically and how real women think, talk everything....

it's kind of related to that thread started by CM

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For a woman the ideal "body" type has changed and will continue to change depending on cultural evolution and the environment. But honestly none of that is important. The ideal woman for myself is one I never tire of conversing with and who gets me. Who understands my each insane quirk and my inane habits.

The ideal woman will differ from person to person depending on how they view life and their personal experience. In other words there is no ideal man or woman. There is only an "ideal woman for me".

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In my mind I dont think there is such a thing as perfect physiche of any sort.

But in my own line of the fammily I believe that our Women should be delicate on the outside but strong willed and hard working inside.

And my image of a perfect body is not in common with most men… I am a little too fond of my fammily shape among all our blood males. We are all fairly stocky around the shoulders but have tapering waists and immense back bones.

Like most of my fammily I have very broad shoulders and collar bones that ressemble yokes, I have a sever muslce deformity on my back and shoulders where it just looks like a slab of flesh. We all have round faces and narrow eyes and most people would call us ugly and like animals rather than men.

But I’m proud of our strong appearance would love to see it replicated in all my decendants few of our fammily was ever too skiny even the women have collar yoke bones. I guess it’s all the work we did thaqt has shaped us into human work horses and pitbulls. :hehe:

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For me, I'd say I formed the 'ideal' image of men and women from my brief childhood and teenage years in Pakistan. I guess it started from the fact we have quite a few women from our family who married into typically top notch military families, and I always thought an ideal man as an all important and respected army officer. Considering the fact that notion of Pakistani nationalism very much revolves around the glorification of its military might, and I very much developed a fascination with their ultra disciplined yet very comfortable lifestyle, intimidating personas, fearlessness, physical and mental strength, plus the sense of security and pride one gets from their appearance can be so overwhelming (I'm speaking from personal experience). So till date, my ideal man is someone who has a genuine aura of dominance and respectability.

I'll talk about the basis of my ideal women later...

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i was just wondering b/c the men in life1 seem so shocked to hear guppan opinions/comments/replies here. what was their view of what a real woman would be like before......

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:biggthumb:

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we are not shocked at the comments,replies and opinions…we are shocked at how perfectly women fit the ‘stereotype’ that we have of women…:wink:
I thought i would hear something different than what i expected…but its the same !

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and what is that stereotype that you had of women before? i would love it if men spoke in urdu poetry occasionally but most men aren’t like that and oh my god don’t ever watch those old old hindi movies, they always show men in such fabulous ways. so far from reality :hehe: or they’re just of men of a totally older generation and men just aren’t like that anymore maybe.

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I don’t want the whole ‘episode’ to repeat and derail your thread…:snooty:

and if you want urdu poetry guys…just visit the ‘initkhaab’ forum…all guys are those ‘urdu poetry’ guys…:smiley:

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a man in uniform :wub:
they’re always taught to respect women and they seem so chivalrous right?any man would look handsome in a uniform like that that demands respect. an ideal man would be like that but not sure how they are as husbands though…

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real man=Dexter Morgan
real woman=Mother Tressa

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i am not derailing the thread, i’m just revealing that that is how my image of most men was, when treating and speaking with women. never being rude or slimy.

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sighs I wish i had strong stereotypes of men engraved in my head... by which I could judge *each and every one *of them... my life would be so much more easier that way...

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not stereotypes, but an image does form after being exposed to people while we're growing up but how many of us are so intimate with the opposite sex, that only happens after marriage

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Yes stereotyping is wrong, image is a different thing - it could vary from individual to individual but i don't think you need to be married to form an imagewe have enough awareness now-a-days. My comment was directed at those who judge women on the basis of stereotypes.

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image is different in several ways..your question about 'image of man/woman' is just too vague to be honest..

there are different ways of how the image is in the mind of a person..for example...for a woman the image can be of..

image of a woman as a mother
------------------------as a sister
------------------------as a wife
------------------------as an aunt or something
------------------------as a co-worker
------------------------as a boss/subordinate
------------------------and on and on and on

each image is different and perceived from a different point of view........so there is no single answer to your question.

believe me you 'do' have......
every person has a 'preconceived image' a.k.a 'stereotype' of everything to a certain extent.........

whenever we are judging/perceiving the world around us.........we do start from generalised ideas....aka stereotype of others........and when we get to know/experience more...we get to the specifics.....thats how human mind works...

so everyone does have a stereotype.....some people chose to admit that it is.....and some don't.....yet it exists in everyone of us...

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As with ideal women, I must say that the exquisitness and aesthetics you find in women in Pakistan (from whatever I've seen at least) can simply be a jaw droping experience. I mean you go to posh areas of Lahore, go to top women collges and the amount of beauty, style and class of you see is mindblowing, nothing compare to the Asian women you come across on the streets of England. The way they dress, the way they carry themselves, their feminine demure, ladylike feistiness etc. Some of the those Lahori girls can blow those Aishwerya's, Deepikas and Kareena's out of water, but majority of them happen to be too 'khandani' to step in the glamour world.

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no... i choose not to believe so... just like every woman doesn't think with her emotions, similarly everyman who carries his heart on his shoulder isn't any less of a man. I believe being judgmental about people is wrong, not letting someone go past your pre-concieved notions is even worse...