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We are part of the pakistani doctors association through my dad.
I didnt go to the parties last year, but my parents really want me to go this year.... i wonder why.
I hope i can feel confident about myself before i go!
The boy my khala was talking about must be really mental, my mum told me today that he wanted a gori girl but not 'peeli gori' he wanted 'gulabi gori'....what the ****!
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just was wondering did you find your mr right in the end? don't let the stigma of being overweight get to you, i found my mr right being huge! lol still am huge and he's still mr right :D
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I wouldn't worry about the weight or age thing either. I myself met the right person when I was 25, starting dating him at 26 and now I'm 29 and we're getting married. I'm so excited because I know he's the right person for me and we have the best relationship!
Finding the right person is the most important thing. And when you find the right person, they'll love you for who you are and finding them would have been worth the wait! :-)
Just noticed the thread was started in 2009...I'm wondering what happened too?
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Hey Alvena, even Im wondering!!
Have you found your Mr Right or not yet???
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hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
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my sweetyyyy, are you still on this? we had this convo feels like years ago, you said you were feeling this way, your not fat, your not even slightly plump, 12 is healthy, and some 12s look slim...all depends.however i dnt think you should do anything, you need to boost your self esteem, not lose weight. and seriously although your mum needs a good talking to, i think most mums are similar, if not weight, then something else.....relax and stop worrying....i know your not tall, so what? neither am i....im fair, however people first commeneted on how motti i was ( i was also size 12), COMPARED to pakistani girls in pak, i was huge, they are skinnyyyy. but gues what, i attracted more attention then they did.
remember women are womens worst enemy, men hardly give a hoot wether girl is size 10 or 12....my husband doesnt, he often tells me he wants a woman, not a hocky stick......its my MIL or even mum who will initiate a conversation about weight loss with me...husband steps in and says mujhe koi daancha nahi chaiye, sukki si...i want a proper insaan....( i hope people know what daancha is..)
RELAX, dont lose weight, get some self esteem...
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oh yeah 2009....where she gone...
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i think she found mr right (^^)
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well imagine how I feel at a uk size 14, 29 and still single!
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join gym
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did u find mr.right?
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Size 12 is so not fat! I am 25 myself and overweight, dark and not exactly high maintenance, but that didn't stop me from being with the most wonderful guy ever. I had a rishta once and the guys mother's first response was "Shes so dark, the kids might get her complexion". Seriously? The guy got married to a fair, slim and might I say very beautiful girl the next year and that girl cut him off from his parents and is now making his life living hell. And me? I have a hot guy, whose an amazing singer (he sings like dean martin sigh), everyone loves him and he's seen me without makeup and still thinks im the most beautiful girl for him. I even told him I should lose weight and all he has to say is hey I have more to love, you don't need to lose it. His moms the loveliest lady ever and she always makes sure that I'm always happy (and shes two sizes smaller than me and actually very good looking herself).
Trust me you will find that guy, but just don't rush into it because you will regret it. And you definitely do not want to marry a guy who does not respect you for who you are, because you will just be the servant he comes home to and not the woman that he wants to spend his quality time with. Love yourself for who you are, because you're much better than a lot of people out there <3
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^ xenaba no way are u dark & u most definitly are NOT FAT! If you honestly think that then boy I am obese in comparison...
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^ xenaba no way are u dark & u most definitly are NOT FAT! If you honestly think that then boy I am obese in comparison...
hahaha come on! I've made your dresses I know you're so not fat:P
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Honestly, the whole pakistani mentality about being TALL, GORI, BIG EYES, yada yada yada.. is SOO stupid!
God made you the way you are.. love yourself! No one has any right to pass any judgement on you.. and although MOST people will-especially Pakistani AUNTIES.. ignore it.
I'm going to be getting married soon iA, and the #1 thing im focusing on, as I'm sure most bride-to-bes do.. is losing weight, because you want to look perfect for your big day. Start working out, you're going to feel healthy and happy as well as look your very best. It's something you're going to want to to once you do get a rishta iA.
And finally, whatever is meant for you to happen, will happen. Don't worry. Again, this Pakistani mentality of having to get married in your early 20's is SO STUPID!!! When it's your time, that's when it'll happen. Don't waste your time worrying about things that are out of your control. Do the best you can to look and feel your very best and enjoy life.