Re: im worried i wont get married....mummy isnt helping.
Ok so just had a major breakdown with lots of tears.
My mum started complaining to my dad that im nt looking fter myself and that im badtamzeez by saying that her saying all this is not helping me.
I just broke down and said i have lost my confidence because of her and i cant deal with her constantly having a go at me saying im eating too much im not doing enough excercise im not washing my face etc
I was saying sometimes i dont even feel like looking aftermyself because i feel so low in confidence.
She was just getting angry and saying fine i wont say anything to you, all you do is sit here do bakwas....( i really dont know whats wrong with my mum)
At this point my dad, who just sat and listened the whole time, was like. Look you are a adult and a medical student and no one can force you to do anything, if you have your own plan then do it and no one will say anything or put you down, but you have to do it whole heartidly with committment and dont let yourself down.
He then told my mum that if her saying stuff isnt benefiting me then she shouldnt say it. She was still angry and my dad said, ok you are not allowed to say anything to her.
My dad told me to make a diary of my start weight, target weight and what i do everyday and goals i achieve and a plan for the day.
He told me not to worry about him and worry about me, and that dont worry about marriage because that is upto allah, do this for you and your confidence.
My mum was still really really angry, which im really upset about and dont understand!
But im really greatful for my dad.