Re: I'm such a DORK - is age just a number?
Well I do have to say, I respect the fact that he was upfront about his intentions, unlike a lot of men who string girls along these days...
However if he is not mature enough to look beyond the age difference and see the great girl that you are than he is so not worth your time honey, just keep looking, there are plenty more fish in the sea and inshallah you will find the man of your dreams.
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Hes an ok guy - just needs grow up a bit. But I guess maybe he can't get his head around it - no worries :)
Thanks guys - you are all a god send.
I love GP
group hug
Re: I’m such a DORK - is age just a number?
“I can date you but can’t marry you.”
What a winner.
EDIT: In case it wasn’t obvious, note sarcasm. 
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he's a jerk...
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move on... he isnt even worth this thread...
why waste ur time on someone who isnt a good match for u...
he is immature and if he wants to date but not get married.. tht doesnt even make sense because then what is the point of dating him?
arghhhhhhhhhh men like these are just silly.
My uncle married a woman like 10 or so years older than him.. and he is veryyyy happy.... everyone was against it but they made it work.
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are people worth threads ever?? 
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Tell him that based on the size of his hands, you've concluded that his penis is too small for you to date, but just right for you to marry.
But only if you're the vindictive kind...oh wait that's all women isn't it?
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Not sure why is HE being considerd a bad guy and has to grow up?
So far it seems he was upfront, honest and did not want to give false hopes.
Anyone can say no to anyone for whatever reason!
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Tell him that based on the size of his hands, you've concluded that his penis is too small for you to date, but just right for you to marry.
But only if you're the vindictive kind...oh wait that's all women isn't it?
Ooooh snap...!
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Not sure why is HE being considerd a bad guy and has to grow up?
So far it seems he was upfront, honest and did not want to give false hopes.
Anyone can say no to anyone for whatever reason!
I agree. At least he was upfront about it so you should be thankful for that. Still, it's kind of ridiculous to say that to a girl. Takes balls though lol
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Duh! He’s a bad guy because he had a preference. Good guys always marry any woman that’s lucky enough to throw them a bone.
Re: I'm such a DORK - is age just a number?
He could've mentioned that before he actually decided to go on a date with her, if he was so upfront and honest.
Wait, he wouldn't have lead her on in the first place, if that was the case, since it was amatrimonial website they met on.
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He could've mentioned that before he actually decided to go on a date with her, if he was so upfront and honest. Wait, he wouldn't have lead her on in the first place, if that was the case, since it was amatrimonial website they met on.
Stop criticising the poor guy.
Re: I'm such a DORK - is age just a number?
He could've mentioned that before he actually decided to go on a date with her, if he was so upfront and honest. Wait, he wouldn't have lead her on in the first place, if that was the case, since it was amatrimonial website they met on.
So? He decided to tell her in person, rather shooting off a message that said the same thing. As if all of this thread wouldn't be boiling over in estrogen-induced rage if he'd done that. Also, she messaged him on the matrimonial site. He is in no way obliged to intend to marry everyone that messages him on the matrimonial site, so he wasn't leading her on, either.
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no.
for some delusional women, maybe.
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when the oP herself said she is a DORK…why other people go nuts over what happened??
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no.
for some delusional women, maybe.
No! You made my eyes commit great sin reading that.
Astaghfirullah!
:Going for wudu:
Re: I’m such a DORK - is age just a number?
but even if he is interested in you, why do you want to marry a guy who is four years younger than you? Our respected men of GS dont get me wrong here, but the fact is Men in general (black-white-brown-yellow-red,etc,etc) are chauvinistic. its not that there is anything wrong about it. if they want to take responsibility of everything then i am all up for it. still there are many women who don’t buy this supremacy but one cant ignore the fact that man’s dough is considered more viable and sturdy. where as woman’s wealth is pretty liquid. i personally dont think its a wise idea to marry someone younger than you, especially when you are not even in love with them. trusting your limited-time only infatuation brings uncalled problems, especially when average income Pakistani’s life is like an open book, and people in your surroundings are like bystanders, waiting for you to make a mistake.
to make yourself feel better you could have said that “lay tum ko kis nay kaha k may apnay say chaar saal chootay **larkay **say viyah keroon ge.” 
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Re: I’m such a DORK - is age just a number?
Hey - let me clear up a few things - it was his choice to say no. I know lots of people (women) - who have married younger guys. One in my family a lady that is married to a guy 9 years younger than her. I wasn’t expecting to get married on the spot.
He asked me questions like: How many children I want, my education level, what I was looking for in a spouse, etc. He said we get on really well, and he really enjoyed himself. And I was very attractive (not blowing my own trumpet here, TOOT)
Later his texts were also very indicative - that he was interested, but then he turned around and said - I could only date you but not marry you. It would have been better in some reterospect if he hadn’t hyped things up and then thought nahh, and he could have told me before the meet, its not like we didn’t know each other before - i.e complete strangers. But each to their own. I am not gonna be running to his house with a pitch fork, in the middle of the night. 
I definately get the vibe hes on there to date, which his own choice.
I was a bit annoyed initially, but after a days reflection - I am not, good luck to him. He text me saying he wanted remain friends - I was like fair enough, even though intially I didn’t think it was a good idea. But he is a family friend and could be awkward on family meetings, etc.