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I am very upset. We had a small fire in our house and I have lost all my wedding cards people gave to me, baby photos, video films of my baby shower, jewellery and other things from my wedding. Allahamdolliah, noone was hurt but I am so upset about losing all those memorable things. I just wish I had taken all the precious items out of that room. I am sad:(

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I am so glad that you are all safe and well! Thats the main thing!

Something you can do to recover some of your memories....write to all of the people who attended your wedding and baby shower and baby's first days and explain what happened. You can write it once and photocopy it. And ask for their kind assistance by making a copy of any photos and/or movies that they might have. You may even end up with better and more than you lost in the fire! As far as the jewelry and other items, I am hopeful that you had some type of insurance? Homeowner's or Tenants insurance? If you do, they will pay you replacement cost so you can go buy these items again.

Glad you are all fine!

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i think i read this before in some other thread.

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hmmmm
I am impressed. your family is lucky to have you.

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thanks mamaof3: But my wedding was years ago, I didnt loose photos from wedding just wedding cards, little mementos etc. My baby shower was a while back aswell and I remember that their was only one camera and only one camcorder and not many people have pics of my baby either:(...It wasnt a big fire, thanks for your advice though I will see what I can do but you will never be able to get those memories back..

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my grandfather used to say, "joh maazi me kho gya, us ka gham na kar, joh mustakbil ke liye bacha hai, us ka khayal rakh!"

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ami123,
I really dont know how to make you feel better. You seem to be stuck in the past which is not good for you. Try to enjoy what you have NOW instead of getting upset about what you lost in the past, believe me people lose a lot more than that. Please consider yourself LUCKY!

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thanks curruptangel:)

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ami, you sadly think that you've lost these memories...but that is so far from true! You have them all right in your head and all you need to do is remember. THINGS like photos and cards and mementos are nice to have yeah...but memories - really happy ones - are priceless. But even so, try to get in touch with those who attended functions etc, you may be surprised at how many of these precious mementos you will recover. That said...I have to tell you that I've been tossing "stuff" like that. As the years go by, theres really only so much you can physically accumulate lol! It was taking over our attic, our closets, our under-bed storage...boys artwork, schoolwork, photos, little mementos. I really had to start de-cluttering and came to realize that if I tossed some of it, that isnt throwing away the memory of it...

Stuff isnt important really. Its the memories and the feelings that go with them that count here yeah?

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mamaof3: thanks for your advice again dear...What things did you throw out then? Things from your wedding or other things?

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hmmmm mostly i tossed stuff from the boys - starting in pre-k, they bring home all of their work, art etc etc. My wedding wasnt really a wedding, we kind of eloped - got all dressed up, just 2 witnesses then out to a lovely dinner at Tavern on the Green then off to honeymoon. We have photos but not lots of memorabilia from that. But i tossed all of our photo negatives, i tossed most of the boys stuff except for the best of the best, i tossed most baby clothes except for one newborn item from each of the boys. Thats really just de-cluttering...I mean I AM blessed to still have our photos and photo albums and I do treasure these...surely I would be very sad to lose them since we did not have digital camera and hard-disk storage for photos when they were babies. But something that I have come to realize is that people - family and friends - have more photos and memories of them than I knew of. And something else that I have accepted is that things - yes even precious photos - are SO much less important than beautiful memories. No one and nothing can ever take these from you and those that have them are blessed and lucky!

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aww thanks you have made me feel better:) When did you get married? Did you get married in pak

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Glad that you feel better ami!!!

Well, we had our official marriage here in New York when we did the civil ceremony in court and this made our marriage legal. It was just us and the witnesses (my sis and her son). And when we went to Pak, there was a big party to celebrate our marriage but it wasnt really a wedding. we werent "into" having a big affair, we just wanted to get on with life, kwim? We wanted to start our family and get on with this instead of big parties yadayada.

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but did you have nikah with the civil ceremony? How many years ago was that? I would love to see pics

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I think that a one wedding event is better than 5 meaningless events

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memories lie within.

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but what if you have a really bad memory like me, I dont remember much at all:(

So what's your hobby?
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She opened a thread about this in the wedding forum a while back....

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Ami, how did the fire start?

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just a small fire. It started with some candles lying around and the window was open and then you can imagine what happened..