I'm offended and angry, how do I communicate it to my husband

I am sure you are not advocating to perceive your husbands friends as lose (without ever meeting them) and start off on the wrong foot by treating them as foes.

Then do the the right action by mingling with his friends, but with wrong intentions of just just keeping an eye on your man or worst to make him jealous. Why not meet them with right intentions, to make an effort to make friends out of your husbands friends/colleagues?