re: I'm offended and angry, how do I communicate it to my husband
How is your relationship with your husband? Do you guys love each other? Do you feel he loves you or do you feel he is constantly looking for the next best thing?
The thing is, if you go to these office parties...you have to expect some physical contact like that. People consume alcohol, let go of their inhibitions and do things they normally wouldnt do...like hugging a co-worker or posing in a suggestive manner.
He asked you to go and you didnt go. He has offered to take you and you refused to make your presence known as the wife. What were you hoping would happen here?
He goes to an office party, meets with his colleagues who have had a few drinks, they want to take some pictures and the girls do some stupid little poses. You dont like it but you didnt do anything to stop it either. Plus, he cant push his co-workers off like that otherwise he looks like the uptight desi who cant seem to loosen up and relax.
Yes, he has to respect your feelings, I agree with that also. But you should make an effort to get out there with him too. Why does he have friends you're not comfortable with?
Its not like you have no control here immune, you actually have quite a bit of control here. GO with him no matter how odd or uncomfortable it feels...it always feels like that in the beginning. Then, its all fine and dandy.