Hello guppans,
This is the part 2 of my shaadi kahani.
But before I begin - I forgot to mention 2 important things about my wedding in my earlier post!!!
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On the wedding night my hubby surprised me with the news he bought us my dream condo…its brand new and that closing was going to occur in a week!!!
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He gave me huge gorgeous David Yurman topaz and diamond ring (our birthstones)…that I always wear on my right hand now…and it conveniently matched my walima dress
**Pre- Walima Details
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[li]My walima was basically 5 days after I came to Boston. I came back on monday night at 2:30am and walima was on saturday.[/li][li]Although my hubby had bought a condo…we have no furniture and the proper closing had not occured at this point. So I was staying with my inlaws… a shaadi wala ghar .. just not my own this time. I knew his family well so it did not take me long to adjust plus we had a million things to do before the event…so there was no time to think about the fact i was living out of suitcase and life was so chaotic around me.[/li][li]During this week we hoped to film an entrance video..something that would be played after all of our family members had been introduced and made their entrances ..and instead of making our entrance, the MC would announce to the guests to watch the video first. After it played..we would walk in ..with the same background music of the video being the same music we walk in with. This was my fiance’s idea..he wanted to do somethign fun and original that had not been done in this community before.[/li][li]It was a great idea..but it stressed me out. There was no time. Everyday it got delayed due to bad weather.[/li][li]We finally shot the video on thursday - Prince Production shot it and they did an EXCELLENT job. But let me tell you …it was like only the second time i ever wore a sari…especially one this heavy…and walking around in it in heels with people staring… not fun!! There is a link to this video at the bottom of this post.[/li][li]The day before the walima - my fiance and I went shopping for his shirt, tie, and pocket square … yes…talk about last minute!!! We took my dupatta with us and went to soooo many stores looking for something that would match well. Thank god he had already bought his suit and shoes!! We found the shirt at Hugo Boss, the tie at Express, and we could NOT find a pocket square to match the tie for the life of us. We were about to give up when i saw this asian altering store- I told him they might have material to make a pocket square… and yes…they did. They didnt have time to stitch it..but since it would be sticking out of the pocket, that was fine. We were in a rush and so relieved to have found it..we didnt care that they charged us like $20 for a tiny peice of cloth in the shape of square which was unstitched.[/li][li]I had my nail appointment at 5pm … due to the running about trying to find clothing for my hubby, and then hitting traffic, we ended up being 15 minutes late and I lost my appointment. I was obviously upset and a random customer there gave me the number of another salon and told me to call her and tell her that “sheila” referred me. I called and did what she had told me to and sure enough, the other salon told me to come right there and then and they would do my nails.[/li][li]So for the walima i got a french manicure and i got SHALACK … girls…i HIGHLY recommend this if you are getting your nails done and have access to a salon that does SHALACK nails… its unbelievable. There is like no drying time and they paint your actual nail…but there are many different layers so they almost look fake and they are literally hard as a rock. My nails did not chip at all for 3 weeks..im going to a wedding in 2 days so I just removed them yesterday. My actual nail bed had started to grow out but one could only really tell if you were up close. Otherwise for 3 weeks I had an amazing french manicure! HIGHLY recommend![/li][li]After I got my nails done, we went and did some more random shopping from the drugstore..as if it was just any other normal day. I had no hand in the planning of this event so I didnt really know what to expect for the next day.[/li][li]BUT - i did know that my hubby and I would have to do a first dance ( he wanted to ) and we had not practiced it at all…[/li][li]We had dinner with his family and other khandaani members that live close by… it ran late and I went upstairs to pack my stuff for the next 2 days… for the shaadi and the brunch.[/li][li]After the packing was done, My hubby was busy preparing stuff for a surprise dance he had been preparing for with his brother and friends for over a month. I had no idea what it was going to be. But i was a bit annoyed that so much prep had gone into that but not our first dance[/li][li]at FOUR AM - we began to practice our first dance…first part was slow- we danced to “My girl” by the Temptations, second song was “Pehli Pehli Baar Dekha Aisa Jalwa” from Silsila …where we imitated Amitabh and rekha’s moves the best we could (we figured the crowd would be shocked and enjoy this song choice), and the last song was Lady Gaga’s “The Edge” … very fast paced with alot of dips and twirls. My fear? how am I going to dance with a dupatta on my head… Heels i was not worried about bc I always dance in heels and I practiced in heels as well… But dupatta??? thats a whole other ball game… my hubby told me not to worry about it… easy for him to say!!![/li][/ul]Walima Day
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[li]We wake up at 9 and head over to the hall to get ready.. luckily valima was in the same city as where my inlaws live…so it wasn’t the same sort of chaos we had for the shaadi where everyone was from out of town. However, Because we were in the same city, there was no point of getting a hotel room the night before … so we didnt have our own room to get ready in at that time. They gave us a “bridal suite” to get ready in..but that is where basically everyone started to get ready. I found this chaotic and a bit unnerving.[/li][li]A girl came to do my hair… she was recommended by the hotels wedding planner… i had no trial done…and unlike for my shaadi.. hadn’t really decided what style i wanted it in. I decided in a side part and a updo. She did a good job but made the updo part into a lot of small curls in the back… i regret this..i now wish it had been a big bun… dupatta would have stayed in place better…ill tell you why in a hott minute.[/li][li]Throughout all of this - i am on the phone in contact with my family and relatives…wondering if they had made it. I was doing my own makeup again and I needed my mom to do my dupatta setting! I found out that my mom, sister, and one aunt were there…but no one else had arrived yet!! They had come the night before (as I had recommended) others had decided to drive the day of to Boston…we are from upstate ny..near buffalo…it is not a fast car ride… I started getting anxious if everyone would arrive in time for pictures… bc my other regret from my wedding was that I had gotten NO pictures alone with just my family…bc they had been split up in different hotels at that time and it was impossible to do that coordination. So I badly wanted this to happen for walima!![/li][li]My mom told me not to panick and tried to calm me down. I did my own makeup…but this time in a my chaotic atmosphere. I was not the biggest fan of my fake lashes (makeup forever) but there was no time to change it up. We were behind schedule. During this chaos, the videographers (Prince Production) and photographer (Fatima Iqbal) came… i felt bad for them… it was really chaotic during the “prep” stage. I have no idea what they captured and if they will be able to make it look nice![/li][li]My hubby and I then did a short photoshoot outside by the Charles River before the event started. Then came back upstairs and took all the family shots with various family members in a special cocktail hour room which was reserved for family only. I was a bit upset because one of my brothers (my favorite brother) was missing and I could not get my family picture that I wanted… plus my nani, khala, and UK uncle and cousins (their mom was there) were not there. I hate how my family was so disorganized with travels and hotel stays! In the end I did get proper pictures with my entire family…the photographer made sure of it… but I did not get any shots with my other relatives :([/li][li]Everyone left to mingle with guests during the cocktail hour, but the waiters kept bringing appetizers into our room for me and my hubby. Despite nerves and anxiety, I forced myself to eat and glad i did..bc the the food was amazing. There was tiny little bowls of tomatoe soup with a bite of seasoned italian bread over it, crabcakes, shrimp cocktail, cheesey macaroni in martini glasses - and they even had a special “Mocktail” made in the color of my dress!!! And it was delicious and beautiful!!![/li][li]When the time came for our entrance - we hoped people liked the video..bc we had not even seen it yet… but we made our entrance…and immediately went into our first dance… at the first dip - my dupatta fell off… I quickly tried to fix it …but for the rest of the dance I felt discombobulated …even though everyone told us that we did a great job and they loved the dance… i felt like it was a disaster…im just going to have to see it on video. Those songs tho… will always remind me of our wedding though now… lady gaga is always on the radio and that song remidns me of the walima! I luv it and wish I could have danced more to it![/li][li]Afterwards we immediate cut the cake…which was gorgeous and massive…made to match my dress![/li][li]The stage was grand and beautiful…made to match my dress![/li][li]My dress itself.. my hubby only knew the color.. and hadnt even seen it bc it was being made in pakistan .. By Malaika Adnan. But it is amazing how well everything ended up matching!!![/li][li]Our friends and family took pictures with us on stage and then Aamir and I slipped away to do our photoshoot during dinner… this time I was prepared and I kept eating granola bars in between pictures so taht I didnt feel ill like I did at the shaadi from lack of food.[/li][li]We came back into the hall and socialized with our guests. I was so glad that this tiem I was able to mingle with my friends! One of my bridesmaids started tearing up when I spoke with her because she couldn’t beleive she was at my wedding..we had met 5 years previously at the beginning of law school…she is happily engaged about to get married soon…and we were at my wedding. We both could have never predicted that we would ever be this happy or lucky …esp. since we both randomly found guys from the same state and would always be close to each other. She made me tear up too… what an amazing friend. She was my roomate during all of lawschool and a year afterwards as well… we always said - “Roomies till the ring” …and that is exactly what happened…[/li][li]My hubby then did his dance with his brother and friends…it was a fantastic bhangra routine with modern western music as well… it was amazing. He came upto me at one point and handed me a rose… luved it![/li][li]After his dance performance, they opened up the dance floor to everyone. My family and community is more conservative..but his is not. I luv to dance and I danced the night away with my hubby, my new family, and my girlfriends. The music was a mix of east and west and almost everyone was on the dance floor. The highlight of the night was my favorite brother sees me dancing…its like something comes over him and a lighbulb goes off in his head… he stops caring that my family is conservative…doesn’t approve of dancing and he grabs my hand and we dance together! He twirls me around and even I am amazed that hte kid can dance! Who would have thought! I was so happy- he was so happy for me … he told me so and he told me I looked gorgeous. It was definitely a huge highlight for me. I never thought one of my family members would be on the dancefloor with me during the walima. My nani and mom were amazed that the kid could dance too. haha. My nani was was like “Changa hai … mokay pe nachda hai… pehli behan ki shaadi hai …nache!” … my nani luved to dance back in the day… and now enjoy watching it.. .so she approved. Im the first one in the khandaan to get married… if my own brother didnt dance at my wedding…then when else would he.. she had a good point!!![/li][li]Eventually even my UK cousins snuck onto the dance floor ..away from their parents eyes and danced with me… it was amazing.[/li][li]The wedding ended when the hall told us it was time to leave. Guests then left. haha.[/li][li]After everyone had left - I took a beautiful pic with my nani …who happened to match with me as well! hahaha. Un planned… but as she said… meant to be 
I took other pictures with family memebrs as well and prince production showed us the video that we had shot earlier …our entrance video on their laptop.. omg..i was obsessed and still am obssesed with it![/li][li]Everyone went upto their rooms, My hubby and I got our things from the cocktail area and went to our honeymoon suite which was massive and had the view of boston and the river. And waiting for us upstairs was dinner and loads of gifts that my family had snuck into our room… amazingly sweet of them. I had alot more energy in me this time so I got into comfy clothing, took my makeup and jewelry off and then ate. The top layer of our wedding cake was also waiting for us :D[/li][li]So basically the day started out stressful for me…but ended perfectly!!! :D[/li][/ul]
Post- Walima Brunch
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[li]We woke up around 9am and started to get ready.. brunch was from 11am to 1pm at a family friends house. We didnt know who was going to be there but got ready none-the less. I wore peshwaas that my inalwas gave me..it was cream and grean combo.[/li][li]I did my own hair for this event… I had gotten those fake hair clip things..u just clip it in and the hair is already curled. I poufed the top part of my hair..tied my own hair into a pony tail and then clipped that thing in…looked like my real hair. haha.[/li][li]We packed our suitcase and then called concerige… we had SO much stuff…gifts that my family gave me… flowers… the cake…suitcases..crazy.[/li][li]When we went downstairs to check out and get our car from valet- i saw my khandaan also leaving. haha. I told them not to follow us bc we had to stop by the house first (had to put the cake in the fridge and other sweets).[/li][li]It was like a hundred degrees outside… the last thing i wanted to do was to be decked out, wearing all this jewelery and high heels…it was crazy. We dropped off the stuff and headed over to the brunch.[/li][li]I was so happy to find that my friends had decided to stay for the brunch as well! It was so amazingly sweet of them! I saw my cousins and sister too so we all hung out. The food was delicious and the auntie and uncle even had a cake for me and my hubby to cut. It was from the best bakery in the area…delicious. Best dessert![/li][li]Slowly the guests started to leave… and only family members remained. Then my parents realized that I had one of their suitcases as well as my sisters carryon (refer to my shaadi kahani post). I also had a pair of my khalaas gold earrings that I had forgotten to bring with me. I had thought they would stop by my inlaws home before they left but they were scared to get lost (which they always do..hence why we are ALWAYS late)- so they asked if we would get it. Aamir and I did…but it took us an hour..half hr to go there, grab the stuff and come back. I kicked off my heels at the house and put on flats not caring anymore. haha[/li][li]We came back …i was starting to not feel well due to the heat and the exhaustion..gave my family the things and then it was like rukhsati all over again… my wedding was officially over… my cousins from england would be heading back.. my mamu who especially came from pakistan for the shaadi…would be leaving soon…and i did not know when I would be seeing my family again.. it came all crashing down on me. My sister was going to start medical school in virginia in a week… i had and still have no idea when I will see her again. I started crying when I hugged my parents good bye and other family members good bye. It was awful again for me. Im the eldest in my family and feel a great deal of responsibility for them… as i hugged my sister and my mom.. i kept crying and saying to take care of abu 
He always takes care of others but not himself… I am very obviously daddys little girl…look after him…he’s a doctor but the worst patient. I am the one who reminds him of check ups and such. I was just so upset thinking about all of this… Sadness of the finality of it all you know? :([/li][li]My parents hugged me and gave me tasalli…they would call me all the time…it will be the same … and then they left. My fiance and i drove back home and crashed out…so tired. And that is it… The end of my wedding story.[/li]
***I hope you all enjoyed the details of this…
i dont know what to call ! i wish u a very happy married life AMEEN 
