usually i tell my husband about such unfair things, then he'll deal with his mother...
Peace crystal1301
It's when husbands are used as the weapon of attack toward their own mothers which can cause deeper wounds to heal. If you love your husband you should not get him to do your hard work with his mother, if you love yourself then you will realise the best option is to think on different level. i.e. how a given situation is a test for your patience.