Irem tum dubara sudher jao gi. I never had a problem talking to guys or chatting, but now Ive cut down big time. A few months ago I deleted all the guys on my msn list, except for about 5, so those who do see me online are extremely lucky. Anyway, ziada na badlo. Keep to whatever is important to you, as cliched as it may sound, be true to yourself and your values.
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be true to yourself and your values.
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Thats what she is wondering about if her values have undergone a change!
Do u mean talking to guys is a big concession you make and it is against the ingrained values of women?
I dont think moral values ever change drastically, as long as youve been given a solid grounding. We all have to adapt and change, as long as we dont compromise these values too much, otherwise one will end up extremely unhappy. And to me, it doesnt seem as though Irem is extremely happy with herself.
And you cant bundle all girls together anyway, Im sure Irem and I are very very different, Im just saying, she should be true to herself. Irem wouldnt do half the things I consider okay.
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I dont think moral values ever change drastically, as long as youve been given a solid grounding. We all have to adapt and change, as long as we dont compromise these values too much, otherwise one will end up extremely unhappy. And to me, it doesnt seem as though Irem is extremely happy with herself.
And you cant bundle all girls together anyway, Im sure Irem and I are very very different, Im just saying, she should be true to herself. Irem wouldnt do half the things I consider okay.
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I agree that moral values dont change drastically unless certain conditions call for yet they do change slowly and gradually when u interact with diverse social forces. Irem I think is pointing to this phenomenon as she says she was a shy-girl before. Now that she considers herself somewhat like a witch, she ofcourse has found some changes in her accepting the things she refused to accept in the past. Now the question to compromise on values involves yet another detailed discussion. I think I have found myself to be a stubborn when it comes to compromise on values. On each occasion I have felt necessity to change, I have found my feet glued to the ground. I dont budge an inch on certain things I am asked to compromise.
hmmmm…
thanks a lot for the responses SS, cat… 
khan bhai 
5Abi 
gets on the broom n flies off
One should ponder the question as to what will happen to the progress and prosperity of our nation if 50% of the population refuses to talk to the remaining 50%, because that will make them a witch.
who wants progress and prosperity by selling their iman, hayaa, carebear etc? 