I don’t care if anyone calls me a whining baby. I’m going to say it out loud.
My mother.doesn’t.respect.my.decision.
The decision of me going to her friends’ homes or not.
seriously, you know how much i have to put up with her?
she forces me to go to their places especially if i don’t want to, and she knows i get bored there easily because hardly anyone talks to me. she said i should make frannnnndddship with the girls (her friends’ daughters) but i tried that all MY [EMAIL=“#@562”]#@562# childhood, and she would never understand that we have major age differences. they are around in college and I’m in the 9th grade. this is stupid. there’s no way we have any common interests. they gossip, they dance to bollywood music i dislike, they do stuff i disapprove of. my mom JUST DOESNT UNDERSTAND and i don’t care if i sass or misbehave in front of her friends. its so frustrating, i yelled twice at my mom and even my dad understands me, she doesn’t.
At 14 she is not going to treat you like an adult, she has all control over you, what you do and where you go. This is what you call growing up. The more tantrums you throw the more "peed off" your mom is going to get. Just sit there and watch tv or something. believe me your time will come of not being forced to go every where with her, but its still a little far, so chill.
Uhm, you don’t have to shout at your mother.. you know. It’s not like she’s telling you to have a sleepover at those places every day.
Maybe you can change your attitude towards them and then see how it goes. Age differences don’t really matter. It’s about how much you open yourself to them and you’ll see that they’ll change their attitude towards you too.
dude ur in grade 9 ... wait till u get to grade 12 and then maybe ppl will start listenin to u ... till then suck it up and eat alot at those parties make up for the boring ppl
It has nothing to do with me growing up to be quite honest.
She makes me be friends with a group of girls I REALLY don't want to be friends with. This time, it's not because of the attitude. I don't really like them, I don't think they would be such a good influence. They disapprove of all things I do, and obviously don't respect them. That's like not respecting me.
They all dance to songs like Zara Zara Touch Me and usually, they talk a LOT about bollywood stars. They insult Pakistan by saying stuff like "omg its fullz of corrupted pplz" and "zomg liek did you hear that katrina kaif broke up with sallu" and crap like that. i just can't put up with them. they are snobs whom i don't want to be friends with.
My mom fires stuff like "they are the only desis in the area" and "u need to be friends with them.' um, hello? you can't just force me to be friends with people i don't want to be with, and besides, i sit alone at school in lunch tables, desis are around me, did they offer any signs for talking? no.
i have gori friends and they are wayyyy nicer then them. they share MY views, MY personal views. it's ironic how you can make gori friends befriend you in less then 5 days while you try to be friends with a couple of desi kids that you've been trying to be friends with in like, 5 years? no, i've just given up. i will no longer tolerate the crap i get all the time.
my mom humiliates me in front of her friends which is also an added bonus why i don't want to go.** if she wants to say that, she can say it to my face privately, not to the whole damned world.**
Another bonus:
she would sweet-talk about those particular 'so-called 'frands' and even let me go to the mall with them, but she doesn't let me go to the mall with my american friends who are modest and trustworthy. this is just Bs she gives me most of the time, saying stuff like 'they are bad' or 'why dont u go to the mall with ___" or stuff like that. its just...annoying when she does that. it makes me want to smash this school computer whenever i think about it. >>;
its like im the inferior daughter here. i don't get the same amount of justice and she doesn't crap about my sister who is like, two years younger then me. i hate it, i hate it all.
i can see the future already just by thinking about my mom who's controlling and possesive in what i do
GA, you came and posted all this on a forum. Why don't you have a heart-to-heart talk with your mom about why you don't want to be friends with them.... just tell her that they make fun of Pakistan and you don't like it and that all that they care about it Bollywood stars, that they don't want to be friends with you and you share nothing in common.
Your mom is probably scared that the gora-influence on you might spoil your morals or something, she doesn't really know your friends like you do, obviously. You know the older generation has preconceived ideas about everything and you just need to talk to them to sort it out. Is your mom the kind who only cares about superficial stuff or is she a sensible, understanding mother? I would say sit down with her talk to her in a mature way, or just suffer in silence for some years, she'll eventually give up or due to her persistence you'll go over to the darker side (i.e. become a bollywood-loving diva) :p
Growing up can suck. I couldn't wait to graduate and move on with my life, and I suspect you feel the same. You're just going to have to deal with it, as aggravating as it is. If you have to go somewhere, bring a book to read. If you're told to socialize with the other kids, the easiest way to get out of it is to bring up topics in conversation that they find no interest in. Sooner or later, they'll leave you alone.
I am niot saying I have problems, i meant we all do, as adults. we have tons of serious issues which compare nothing to the minor incidents we used to think was the end of the world at 14 yrs of age.
It’s not like she’s telling you to have a sleepover at those places every day.
