Re: If your child asks you about gay parents of his friend
UZ, i think the right age for anything is when they start asking/showing interest. I don’t go around talking to my kids about sex all day, but if they ask a question or comment on something, I don’t lose the moment, I answer their questions or start a conversation to see where their minds are at. Sometimes it’s a quick, one word answer, sometimes it evolves into a hour long discussion. Take your cues from your kids.
Now we did start initiating talks about “stranger danger” from very early on, like around age 3 I think…
Re: If your child asks you about gay parents of his friend
agree…I think.
the thing is that I don’t want to dictate to my child whether to respect someone as a “practising Muslim” or not; I want her to believe that this is something strictly between a momin/momina and Allah. I want to teach her that you respect a person’s right to make a decision and let them be.
Re: If your child asks you about gay parents of his friend
But Muzna what if your child asks are they doing wrong? I always tell my children that they do is their business , it is between them and ALLAH. what if child asks but mom they are doing wrong, should we stop them or enlighten them. Isn’t it our duty if someone is doing wrong we should tell them nicely. Or at least we should call bad thing , bad.
I was having this discussion with my sis on other day that if we see someone doing something wrong should we just move on or we should stop them or warn them. I thought we should just pray for them if we love them. But now a days it is hard to tell someone.
Just confused. For people who are not Muslims it’s easy to say that it is not our culture. But for Muslims who are doing wrong like gay Muslims it’s really hard. You look at ahadeeth you see " Iman ka karz or tareen DARPA burai ko burai Janos."
Re: If your child asks you about gay parents of his friend
If I ever reproduce and have my own demon spawns, I won’t hide reality from them.
I will start telling them about TheNasty, puberty, and other issues similar before the media tells them.
Oh, and I will also tell them not to believe 7th century Arabian fairy-tales.
Each human being has both male and female seeds. You just need to know how to use them and on whom to impregnate the other person. I am amazed that you did not know about this basic fact
Re: If your child asks you about gay parents of his friend
Well…you have to admit that they are doing wrong. You cannot stray from the rules that have been clearly outlined in the faith.
In order to determine whether or not to speak out, I guess you have to first define for the child whom you are able to “correct” and whom you should leave alone and simply pray for.
For example…if my child is doing something wrong then I have a certain degree of responsibility to correct her…if my niece is doing something wrong then I have a lesser degree of responsibility…if friend, even less, an acquaintance less again to the point that I have no obligation towards a stranger. If I should feel compassionate and fear for those that I have no obligation towards then I can pray for them to be shown the path and that’s it.
If you can relay the above message they should be able to find their way…
Re: If your child asks you about gay parents of his friend
Wont be a problem at all if my child is going to ask me such a question. I will simply and politely give him or her the religion reason and at the same time i will not let them disrespect other persons way of living.
Re: If your child asks you about gay parents of his friend
That’s a tough question, how can you politely tell your kid that his friends’ parents will mercilessly burn in hell for all eternity for their sinful ways. You can’t really.
But a simple answer is: because they love each other, too modernistic though-- let’s just stick with burning in hellfire with sprinkles on top.
