I was looking at modern family other day, I was thinking if your child goes to school and has a friend who has two male parents or female parents, how are you gonna tell them that it is fine to live like that? For instance you think it is fine to have same gender couple friends, are you ready if your child come home and says I want to raise a child with my gay buddy?
In modern family they show it’s very normal, everyone is happy and people should be more acceptable towards gay couple. One day may be you have a friend from gay parents.
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why would your kid not ask such a question?
you’re so cute.
I’ve already had to address this topic…and so far I’ve managed to relate it to religion and say that Islam does not permit same sex couples…everyone has their own religion and to them it may be okay…we are not to judge.
I’m not quite sure how I will address the same question when it is posed in reference to Muslims. I haven’t thought that far ahead.
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Queen_24, they could adopt or have a child with a sperm donor or surrogate..
If my (future) children asked I would say that as long as they’re not hurting others it’s up to them how they live their lives and we’re all accountable for our own actions and sins..
Here’s a simple lesson in reproduction: if a gay male couple wishes to have children and not adopt, they don’t need a sperm donor, as they are more than capable of producing their own. They need an egg donor and a gestational carrier. They find some nice lady )or anonymous donor) who will donate the egg..in vitro fertilization takes place and the embryo is transferred to the womb of a surrogate mother who gives birth. And that is how two gay men can become parents.
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Uz, I haven’t yet had to broach this subject with my children, but I would handle it exactly as Muzna did.
My husband and I are very big on open dialouge with our boys. No subject is off limits. We use very age appropriate language to answer whatever questions they may have or explain sensitive topics. I don’t ever want my kids to lie in judgement of anyone else, no matter what their lifestyle is, even it is in direct conflict with our morals and norms. I teach my children that everyone is a creation of Allah, and it is Allah alone who can hand down judgement of right and wrong.
I don’t agree at all with being scared of the influence of gay couples regardless if they are Muslim or not, nor do I use lessons from Islam as scare mongering tactics. Yes, the world is becoming a scary place to navigate, but I feel like we have been given a perfect deen, and the tools neccessary to avoid the pitfalls and bad stuff. I don’t need to shelter my family from the realities out there, instead I choose to surround them with the positive and good that is found in all walks of life and all people, both Muslim and Non Muslim.
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There are enough gay Muslim couples in the news so if your child is at all “connected” and old enough to understand then he/she will certainly come to know of them.
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Call it this Call it that.
But I think that is gayness iinvading homes.
They need to keep their 2 mommies or 2 daddies S##$t to their houses.
Till other people;s children are old enough to handle such s@#$%.
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we lived in mass and in fact knew quite a few same sex couples/parents at work, around town , and in general. It was just a norm there and if we were still there when our child was old enough to understand, I think he would have just known its normal and just not part of our religion. I did notice that people respected my religion and never said or acted which would have made me uncomfortable. it was a pretty liberal town.
Now here in this state, where gay marriage is not even allowed, I have a feeling the exposure to that will be pretty late and again if it comes to that, answer will be we must respect their decisions just like they respect our decision to wear a scarf, not drink alcohol and all that.. we dont have a right to judge.
Re Muslim gay couples.. well lets just say they are not practicing Muslims so just being born Muslim or having an islamic name doesnt make them Muslim.. bet it will be harder to explain just like I tell my husband that for us it will be easier to raise our child in the US than in Pakistan.. where you really cant get away with “but we are Muslims” answer to satisfy your child and their questions. Almost everyone is Muslim there but not practicing Muslim so that needs more understanding, patience, and communication between a parent and child.
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i’m curious - did any of you guys have to explain to your kids where babies come from? that sounds like a tougher question to answer, and something nearly every young child has. what is usual vs. unusual is a much later in life set of questions.
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i just had this conversation with my 8 year old twins a few weeks ago lol! it started innocently enough…thing 1 and thing 2 were arguing about something, and thing 1 said “you have to respect me because i’m older than you by 20 minutes!” and that led to #2 asking why his twin was older than him when they had the same birthday…and so i started to explain how they were each born one at a time but the doctor had to take them out from my tummy separately (one was born vaginally and the other c section) and that led to them asking how they even got in there to begin with so i took a deep breath and gave them a modified version of how pregnancy happens…that their papa and i each have parts in us that makes a baby and that moms are the ones who carry the baby because dads don’t have the organs necessary to do it…they were both quiet for a minute and then thing #2 said…“ya, i already learned all that from watching Animal Planet”
asking such Q’s.
