If you won't look, you won't find the one.

[ShahreyarKhan]

Re: If you won’t look, you won’t find the one.

part A

being friendly, being friends, or not being rude are different. when you use ‘never’ you are assuming something that is not true. and moreover you are applying to different situations that cannot be lumped together.

“I’d really love to know if any guys reading this would give more izzat to girls who refuse to carry a friendly chatter and come across as being difficult to get. Would any of you (guys reading this) consider them more of the “wife material” versus a girl who chooses to react to you in a friendly/“I’m open to getting to know you” manner?” - what you wrote applies to a specific situation so if we dont focus on that then we will be discussing random things

part B

to answer your post, i do have friendly conversation with women in my workplace meaning hi hello how are you and NOT hey nice dress

the social setup i have/live in women do not come up to me to introduce just to have a conversation. i do not go to clubs, bars, etc. if it is something to do with profession then the conversation is strictly profession, not ‘lets have lunch one day’

see you have mixed so many different things

anyway to summarize: profession conversations are different, while social conversations are different - this needs to be clear - there are girls who are professionals and can carry out such conversations but are conservative in social situations/gatherings

@ShahreyarKhan

I would - I believe there is no need to get friendly with na-mehram. “getting to know you” for honest intentions and marriage purposes is different and does not require months and years of interaction.

this modern concept of husbands having girl-friends and wives having guy-friends is completely ridiculous and inappropriate imo

so to answer ur question, yes i would

@Paheli00

Ok. That’s fair. Let me word it in a different way.

So when you’re in a social situation…any type of house parties, melas etc…even professional gatherings…you NEVER have friendly chatter/conversations with women? Forget months or years of dating or chatting up a woman for any romantic purposes…You NEVER have any nice/friendly banter/conversations with na-mehram women period?

Also, let’s say you’re in social situation where a woman came up to you, introduced herself and started a simple general conversation. Even if she herself isn’t saying or doing anything to even hint at dating/marriage or anything romantic/sexual…heck maybe the entire conversation has to do with whatever field you work in (assuming its a professional/networking event)…would you lose respect for her just becuase she chose to have a friendly conversation with you? Let’s say she’s good looking, Pakistani, Muslim…and just by whatever she’s talking about…she comes across as being educated/intelligent. Despite all that, would you never consider her for marriage just because she started a conversation with you at a public event?

While I completely understand and respect your views in regards to dating…I’m curious about your views on women who decide to simply have a friendly conversation at a social event…a conversation without giving ANY hints at dating/marriage etc.