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Re: If you won’t look, you won’t find the one.

Sup yo!

Never be afraid of initiating conversation yo. I mean what is the worst thing that could happen?. See as a guy this is one thing that actually gets me about Pakistani girls..say if i approach Pakistani girl to talk and have conversation (I am just not talking about flirt) they show attitude. Though our intention is nothing but striking nice conversation and get to know each other. And with Pakistani girls..it seems everything went well in terms of conversation..then they just don’t have time to come out. And if I or one of my friends invite them for group dinner or so..very very few Pakistani women show up. And it is all decent event. None of us drink or bunch of players. Our sole purpose is to expand our social circle and get to know each other for networking as well. We make it very clear but it seems some Pakistani women do not want to show up. I mean..to compare i see most of the non-muslim desi girls come out and they actually meet people in my social circle and end up dating them. What i am saying yo is..not every desi guy want to flirt with ya. Me and some of my friends started this because we know how hard it could be find significant other. Not only for girls..trust me yo!
For instance other day I was invited to one of my friend’s friend night out (my friend who is sikh fella). We went out for dinner and actually ended up making awesome connection with some of desi sikh women there. And these women were all working professionals. This is my opinion!..
And btw may i mention. My parents TOO asked me if i was interested in some girl..i should introduce her to them. May God bless them. So i have absolutely NO problem approaching girls and potentially introduce them to my parents. They key is attitude. When Pakistani women show even a bit of attitude..it turns us off. Now there are times..say if i really a girl then i would push it but it didn’t happen. Also as someone said..DO NOT change yourself. Be yourself but be more approachable.

@Paheli00

I think you know what to do. Since you stated you’re not an introvert…then just go out there and meet new people! There’s nothing else to do other than to set a goal and going after it (ie. the goal isn’t to get a husband…the goal should be to expand your social network, and see what happens). Because if you make new friends (men or women doesn’t matter)…you never know who those people might know.

I think Paheli put it perfectly well. See..when a fella approached her..she was easy and open to go out for dinner though she might not have had feeling for him at the time. But she took the chance. So yap..congrats yo!..

@Ashy2010

For me, being friendly with desi guys who are a match makes me think that that they would have a negative image of me and my character and they will consider me some girl out to find a guy on her own and thus thinking bad about me. I believe that desi guys give izzat to girls who are difficult to get, follow their values and have good self respect and they only consider such girls for marriage. So being friendly with them doesn’t lead a girl anywhere since a desi guy CAN consider an overly-friendly and liberal girl for friendship but NOT for marriage.

Its like juggling between how to be friendly with a desi guy without being tooo obvious and without losing my character and values. I don’t want the guy to think that I am out on a mission to find a guy on my own and using strategies to prusue them.

Your concerns are valid yo.. but remember to be yourself. I mean have normal conversation. If he invites ya for coffee or dinner. Then go out. I mean it’s not..we will go ahead get married second day. Stuff happens..may be guy and girl on first date don’t end up liking each other and are friendzoned. So what yo!. It’s all about taking chances..