If you won't look, you won't find the one.

[Paheli00]

Re: If you won’t look, you won’t find the one.

@ShahreyarKhan

I would - I believe there is no need to get friendly with na-mehram. “getting to know you” for honest intentions and marriage purposes is different and does not require months and years of interaction.

this modern concept of husbands having girl-friends and wives having guy-friends is completely ridiculous and inappropriate imo

so to answer ur question, yes i would

Ok. That’s fair. Let me word it in a different way.

So when you’re in a social situation…any type of house parties, melas etc…even professional gatherings…you NEVER have friendly chatter/conversations with women? Forget months or years of dating or chatting up a woman for any romantic purposes…You NEVER have any nice/friendly banter/conversations with na-mehram women period?

Also, let’s say you’re in social situation where a woman came up to you, introduced herself and started a simple general conversation. Even if she herself isn’t saying or doing anything to even hint at dating/marriage or anything romantic/sexual…heck maybe the entire conversation has to do with whatever field you work in (assuming its a professional/networking event)…would you lose respect for her just becuase she chose to have a friendly conversation with you? Let’s say she’s good looking, Pakistani, Muslim…and just by whatever she’s talking about…she comes across as being educated/intelligent. Despite all that, would you never consider her for marriage just because she started a conversation with you at a public event?

While I completely understand and respect your views in regards to dating…I’m curious about your views on women who decide to simply have a friendly conversation at a social event…a conversation without giving ANY hints at dating/marriage etc.