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We can cleary see your **TRUST **from all these threads. 
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I think even more surprising than this thread is tha people are taking it seriously…really?
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You’ll have to forgive the posters here. Since most are Pakistani Muslim, they tend to assume the other Pakistani Muslims follow some basic Islamic teachings such as not having sex outside marriage. But now that you have made it very clear that your BF is perfectly ok with sex outside marriage (and you are also ok with this belief), I’m sure posters won’t make that mistake again.
Exactly! He didn’t marry the divorcee to use her physically. He married her to get back to his GF. This makes a HUGE difference. 
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when you are angry with soemone you love at that time you think that you do not love them .. but it doesnt mean that they have let your subconious mind .. and please this term ;several times’ is very distrubing to read please refrain from such comments .. thank you
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i didnt make nayhting clear .. this is your devilish intentions trying to assume things i have not even said
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Well that was just the honeymoon period. I’m sure the ENTIRE time they were living together…easily more than 100X. 
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This thread is gem. You don’t get thread like this everyday to share the ultimate wisdom. Please don’t ruin the party 
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OP,
I am not repeating anything…nor harassing you …not attacking you. I just tried to answer your question and I tried to present a different angle/s to the question you posed.
You connected my post to your boyfriend…I wasn’t discussing him. However, now that you have brought him up…I’d say that it’s obvious that you are very defensive of him. So, just marry him then. Also, marrying someone to get back at another person is an act of injustice…it’s making light of the gravity of a nikkah. But if even that no longer bugs you and you have moved past from that… then more power to you. I also don’t think it’s something to be proud of to say that ur bf can easily get sex without having to get married. If despite the accessibility, he remained chaste…That’s more commendable. If not…then…yikes. And if it’s the latter and you can overlook that…then again…more power to u.
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im not proud of anything .. im just answering you because you and someone else keeps implying that he used her for sex .. yes he did it for revenge but maybe at that time he hated me so much that he thought he would be able to forget me but then after marriage he discorvered that he could not .. maybe gogin into it he actually thought that he will be able to fulfill the marriage with her .. because hes not the type of person to take a nikkah so lgihtly .. hes a good person decent person
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OP, on a more serious note, are you worried that you can’t get another guy? There are many decent guys who you can fall in love with who will respect you and won’t come with this baggage. The guy married another divorcee to get back at you?? He affected and ruined many lives just to get revenge? You don’t find that wrong? Imagine what he can do to get back at you after you marry him every time you anger him or do something that he perceives wrong. Try to get over this guy (easier said than done I know), it’s not worth all this mental torture you’re putting yourself through.
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He had admitted to his own mistakes that he had made in the relationship SEVERAL times. But that wasn’t enough for you. So here u are…in a different thread…dredging up this guy’s past again. Why? 
It’s kinda like harassment…and sorta obsessive as well. It takes guts to admit to your mistakes to yourself even…let alone others. It’s commendable. The same cannot be said for throwing someone’s past in their face. Let it go now please, Cha Moo Jee.
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He didn’t worth that much. I blogged a generic trend in L&R but I guess u took it a bit personal.
Secondly when someone is making a comment about a whole nation, he should first have a look first in his own gireebaan. He admitted or not admitted is not my issue or what he doesnt in his life.
Redvelvet G :mirch:
Please take a glass of water and sakoon mahol tay mithay chol 
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im worried that il never able to move on .. because i have not ever since all this trouble started .. im in a depression for him i just cry for him all the time .. no one else seems right no ther family seems that they are for me
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this is why i think god is bringing him back to me .. evne though it hurts at least he loves me now nad now his mom wants me back too .. before they never even wanted to look at me or talk to me
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Looks like you’re the one who’s into him head over heals and he knows that and knows how to use it in his favour.
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I would say run from this guy and don’t look back. But it looks like you are gna go ahead with it. A guy who marries another for revenge! Despicable. Whether he slept with said wife is the least of the problem. And yeah he did sleep with her.
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I had edited the bit in my post about ur blog before you responded to my post. The reason I did so was because I went back and reread ur blog and realuzed it was written in a general way. So I admit that I was hasty there and I apologize for that. However, there are other ways to refute a generalization that you don’t agree with. It doesn’t have to be done by flinging a person’s own mistakes in their face..after they’ve admitted to them.
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Yeah I know it must be very difficult. And no one else will seem right until you move on. In order to move on, you’ll have to be strong and not contact him even if he contacts you. This won’t be easy. But you deserve better than this. It takes a long time to get over someone especially if you were so invested in him. He did you wrong along with doing wrong to several other people. There is no justification for it. Don’t let him ever convince you otherwise. Once you have gotten over him, you’ll find a guy who will cherish you IA. Stop putting yourself through this torture.
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I accept and agree. May be I should not have got so emotional. As you said there could be other/ better way.
No harms done so you’re fine 
But I really appreciate your post. It takes guts to admit one’s mistake.
Jazak ALLAH.
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Thanks redvelvet for sticking up for me. You provide the best advice on these forums, very mature and genuine.
Cha mo is a brother, it’s okay he can call me out for my mistakes. But Cha mo be nice to redvelvet also please, she’s a classy lady.