if you were marrying a divorcee

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would you ask him if he had sex with his first wife or not ?

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that is a ridiculous question. Of course he would have had sex with his wife.

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:smack: Ofcourse, wut Hmmna said. And if you are accepting him as a divorcee, then why even think about whether he had sex or no. It becomes irrelevant since you have already trusted him as previously married person.

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Pure waste of a thread. You can add this information in your last thread but I dont think that it will make any difference.

and if he was married and living with his wife and he hadn’t sex with her, you should be rather worried.

You know what I mean …

:khumar:

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:rotfl:

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This is a no brainer no?

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Apparently not to everyone.

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This occured to me too

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There should be an aptitude test and person who score a certain %age should be allowed to post in Life1 :smack:

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Great point! So the question becomes, what should freak out a girlfriend more:

  1. That her BF married another girl and became intimate while being in love with the GF

OR

  1. BF married another girl and never touched her.

:hmmm:

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No need to ask because obviously he had sex with his wife..several times

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I can see the next thread is coming :pullhair:

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Lol yeah number 2 is so unlikely..come on OP, we are talking about pakistani men here..the creatures that will eye without any discreteness or shame any fully covered girl just walking down the street..and now we are considering whether such a creature would not touch his own wife..sorry OP, he’s more than touched her and yes enjoyed it too despite what he says about loving you the entire time (such BS btw)

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Obviously? :confused:

But..but…what if I have no evidence that he slept with her and what i heard was that he didnt go near her? Surely my BF wouldn’t lie to me about something like this?

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:rotfl:

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Becareful with your generalisation here. As I know of a very mature, educated, non desi doctor who watched porn with the girl he was going to marry and then he wanted her to wear dopatta and not to interact with guys.

Height of hypocrsiy.

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I know a true story of a Pakistani couple where the guy had been pressured to marry the girl. He had told his parents and her that he would not fulfill the “rights” of the marriage. So, he didn’t touch her. It was until much later that the wife won him over and he fell for her…but until then he did not touch her. And while he was a jerk in other ways, I could respect him for not “using” her.

I have a cousin whose ex husband had not wanted to marry her and she did not know about this. It was said that he was interested in someone else. That sure didn’t stop him from getting some free-b sex from my cousin. He then “surprised” her by sending her a gift of a divorce notice while she went to spend her birthday with her parents. She was stunned…she couldn’t imagine what offense she had committed that would have led to a divorce. And she was a poor girl…whose mom was a widow. Till this day my cousin wonders if the only reason he married her was to use her for sex. This reminds me of yet another time when I had read about a guy who was seeking advice from a mufti. He had been pressured into marrying a girl and had been deceived about her looks. When he first saw her on the wedding day… He was not attracted to her at all…he felt put off. That still didn’t deter him from sleeping with her. And after that he decided that he just couldn’t get past her looks and was seeking guidance from mufti sahib. I guess the guy figured to himself that society wouldn’t believe she was a virgin after marriage anyways…so why not fulfill that notion. :confused:

Maybe the guys in the above situations thought that sex would ignite love between them and their wives…I dunno. Chances are that a divorced guy has had sex with his wife many times. But there’s a difference between going into a marriage cuz you want to and giving it your best shot and things still not working out…and marrying someone ur not into and taking advantage of them. I’ve said it before…the latter is disturbing.

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HeY its not hypocrisy when I’m saying pakistani men are creatures when I myself am a pakistani man..I’m fully admitting to it

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You don’t representing a whole nation here neither do the people whom u were talking about.

Dont generalize please :naraz:

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he doesnt need to get married to soemone to use them for sex .. he lives alone he goes out all his friends have girlfriends .. he could have easily gotten it from somewhere else if thats all he wanted .. he just did the marriage to get back at me thats it .. so please do not keep repeating this .. becauase he does not live a restricted life in a restricted country .. and i trust him and i know how high guys’ sexual drives are .. i understand all of this