How would you advise him? She will not embrace Islam and she is adamant about it.
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I really don’t get why desi muslim guys do this. Pakistani guys especially. They LOVE to get it jiggy with a Indian girl who is Hindu, then they hit that age when they know they have to settle down and then they want a bholi bhali Pakistani muslim girl.
The number of hindu girls who have come to hate our community…
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He has connections with India because his father is Indian Muslim and mother is Pakistani but pursuing a relationship that went from friendship to this is wrong on so many levels.
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All you can do is remind them about what challenges they’re likely to face from their respective families …as well the Islamic rulings and the challenges of raising kids on the same page. After doing so…leave them be. Chances are these things have already crossed their mind, but they chose to overlook them for whatever reasons.
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I would advice to move on. What he decides to do is up to him. He will deal with the consequences of his own actions, whatever they may be.
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Did he seek your advice?
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relax dude. Whats the big deal??
Its not a like pakistani girl is being with hindu guy.
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Why is a pakistani guy with a hindu girl not as bad as vice versa?
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PCG, larkiee larkiee hotiee hai…hindu or muslim nahieen.
i have never ever discriminated any woman based on religion and was very open to dating anyone that i felt attractive and if she was willing to date me as well knowing i am a pakistani muslim.
and yes I have no problem whatsoever in marrying her even if she is not Muslim. so what? but it goes both ways. if you feel like that your hindu or christian gf has problem with you being muslim then stay away form a long term relationship because it will give problem in future.
for me, the biggest aspect is to have mental and physical compatibility with the woman. Please do not ignore physical compatibility part either which desis always tend to ignore, god knows why.
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@pcg
This stance is based on the belief that the children will take on the religion of the father and that he will be the more dominating one and therefore wife n kids will have to follow his religion and traditions etc. But on the flip side if the wife doesn’t sincerely embrace Islam and only saw conversion as a formality to marriage…it may be argued that if she’s going to be the one to mostly raise/teach the kids…the influence of her religion may be stronger esp if she’s attached to it.
As for Hindu girls hating on the Muslim community…it takes two to tango. People (Hindu or Muslim) usually have a pretty good idea from the get-go as to how accepting their parents will be of mixed-marriages and the level of opposition they’ll face from their families. It’s wrong for Muslim boy to give false hope of marriage to her, but she would have know how accepting her own folks would be. They’re both responsible.
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this is your friends mistake…
why cant he become hindu? why is he forcing her to become muslim. ajeeb baat hai.
if islam is so dear to your friend then why cant he understand that for that girl, her religion is also equally important. why shd she embrace islam? and no she is not adamant about it. she is exercising the exact same right that your friend is practicing.
or just dont force her…stay muslim and let her stay hindu. if you love her and like her mentally and physically (and vice versa) you will lead a happy life. now if she is too hindu and too sensitive abt it and you are too muslimish, stay away from each other. both of you have god time, move on. dont ruin each other lives.
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from my experience, hindu/muslim marriages will only work if both partners dont really care about their respective religions except they were born into it. if either one is too sensitive about his or her religion, marriage will never ever work no matter what especially after having kids.
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This is where the Gods from both sides need to step in rather than let the inmates run the asylum.
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I get what you’re saying, however parental approval is important in both cultures when it comes to marriage. Sometimes even if the parents are not particularly religious themselves, they may be biased against their son/daughter marrying someone of a particular background (religious/nationality/socioeconomic class etc) and that may be due to stereotypes they have or a consciousness of image within society. And so most Desis..regardless of religion…know already have an idea as to where their parents draw the line. Some can stand up to the opposition from family and others can’t. So if one knows before hand ..then they have a degree of responsibility/accountability.
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You didn’t give enough info.
Does your friend want his gf to convert to Islam?
What are we suppose to advise for? Marriage? Conversion? End relationship?
and this
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Why would you advise him?
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I won’t advise on any relationship unless someone seeks my advice.
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He talks to me about it at that time I can just listen I guess and not offer my opinion or have any foresight regarding the issue. Religion does mean a lot to him and to her too. He does not drink and smoke so he’s hanging on to most of the things he should be sticking to. He just acts like it doesn’t matter.
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His life. He can make his own mistakes and learn from them.
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Well salam..for what you saying how he is. I would advise him and thats all i can do. Rest it up to him. What else you can do?..yes we do care about friends but do your part and be sincere friends..or bus.