Re: If you die...
kakaballi:
I think he would not want to, but with time, even death, can be concieved as a release from here to a bettter place.
As I said, in a perfect world this is what I would want. But, with human emotions we just don't have it the way I interpret how it should be.
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I will not want him to marry again but I am 200% sure he will..............lol
Yes.
As I said, in a perfect world this is what I would want. But, with human emotions we just don't have it the way I interpret how it should be.
Sana, first of all..... I wasn't trying to be funny or attempting to amuse you in my post. Secondly, in your first response to this thread....you didn't mention a "perfect world".....nor did you mention the procedure you'd implement in finding your husband another wife........so that leaves it up to the reader's interpretation.
Let's take the interviewing candidates in your spouse's presence...out of the equation. Even if a woman were to search for a wife....behind her husband's back (in his absence).....it takes a lot of courage to face the idea of your husband being with another woman...and not let your jealousy/bias get in the way of this search for another spouse. For example one might deliberately try to search for a wife (that's nice....but not too pretty). It's hard to isolate your emotions from this.
And if your spouse is emotional over losing you.....his emotions can cloud his judgment about whether the chosen/suggested wife is even right for him. She might seem right at first.......and then not compatible later on. Compatibility is complex.
It reminds me of a "rebound." Where you quickly get with another person....because your previous relationship ended. And this can hurt both people...because you might think you're ready to start over when you still haven't moved on. And it's not fair to the new girl......because it would be hard for her to deal with a guy who is still in a lot of pain.....and may feel that she's constantly living in the shadow of his former SO. Moreover, she herself, might not want to marry him.
"Moving on"....doesn't necessarily mean.....that one should jump into another marriage quickly. It can take time....before another marriage takes place. And perhaps months...or even a couple of years down the road.....when your husband has "moved on" from your loss...........he may not feel attracted or have the desire to marry the "replacement woman" you suggested to him in the first place. Since his pain has lessened....he's better able to put things in perspective...and that perspective can change.
***Now it's very possible that he might....a few months/years down the road....marry the SAME woman you suggested...and be happy with her. But life doesn't come with guarantees.
To each his own. We're all entitled to our opinions and different things work for different people. If it works for you n your partner...more power to you...in the end that's what matters more :)
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^ u got some serious typing speed.
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^That I do, lol.
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I always let him know that he's free to re-marry.. but I dno.. I doubt he will!!
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When I am gone, I would want him to decide if he wants to re-marry or not. Whatever makes him happier is what I will suggest. My hubby asked me once that If he goes will I remarry and I said no because Marriage is a lot more then just living with a guy. I will not be able to be with a person other then him. I am selfish but I pray and hope that if possible I go before he does.