If you die...

Lifestyle Relationships
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No!

I will ask her to commit suicide after my death :slight_smile:

BTW How can we control our spouses after death? :hmmm:

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I have already discussed this with my fiance ahead of time....(talk about being prepared, huh? lol) Anyway, I told him that if I KNEW I was going to die I would help him find a wife before I died so that he would have someone left to console him and help him to not be lonely after I am gone. However, if I did not know I was going to die and then it just happened, well......I hope he makes a wise choice! And yes, I would never want him to be alone and sad.

And the good thing about this is that in Pak he can already have her as a wife at the same time, so we can have realistic plans not fantasy plans. BEcause, one day,, I probablly will go before him.

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How do you help your spouse pick out a wife? In the event that you know you're going to die (let's say it's a terminal illness).....imagine checking out and interviewing candidates for your spouse....in your spouse's presence. And trying not to let your bias/jealousy/pain get in the way of the process....whilst also coming to terms with your own end. Needless to say very awkward....painful.....and kinda sorta filmi (though it might happen in real life).

If it were me ( and I knew I was dying)...I wouldn't pick/or help him pick someone. He's an adult and can marry whomever he so pleases after I check out (not like I can stop him).....I'd just hope (in the event we have young child/ren) that it's someone who'll be good to them.

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^If they did it I reckon most women would just pick a new wife they feel the husband wouldn't love/fancy as much as them :D

I'd find it really creepy picking out the woman who'll be sharing his bed after I'm gone.. what if they can't wait that long and think to themselves 'well she's given us the go ahead, let's get down to it'

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you would be dead man .. how come you would be hurt .. :d lol! .. sounds funy1

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You can always haunt your wife after death.

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I would want him to get married again...but he needs to make sure if we have kids and they are young...b4 choosing the right wife...he should be choosing the right mother for his kids...other wise...he is all free to live his life as he sees fit.

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No problem at all. As long as I can do the same and take out an insurance policy out on her....

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i will kill him wen im aba to die

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yes.

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Whatever she decides to do once I croak is up to her. I can't control that and I am quite sure I won't be feeling jealousy 6 feet under. However, I am definitely not going to discuss this subject with her, ever.

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What the heck korn...have mercy on the poor fella!

Btw i wouldn't care if she did. As long as she got married after i am gone..then whatever. Because like it or not this is what i will do..re-marry.

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no mercy buddy

thats how im :x2:

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ok first of all I would ask God to grant me long life to live with my spouse. If God doesn't want it thaat then I would'nt mind him marrying when I die. But I would never think of that only men can do.

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Re: If you dieā€¦

Weā€™ve had this discussion many timesā€¦usually itā€™s me teasing him. I have no problem with him remarrying once iā€™m gone from this worldā€¦

Whether or not he acts upon that, itā€™s up to himā€¦but iā€™ll know what iā€™ll be doing if i was in that position. :chai:

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Too much of bollywood lately? :D

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Re: If you dieā€¦

LOLā€¦I love the ĆÆnterview your competition"picture you have now placed in my head "red velvet! LOLā€¦no, I never thought about interviewing anyone with him! :bizz:

Doing it like that would be teribly funny and I donā€™t really think you get the idea I was trying to giveā€¦but I like the side comments! LOLā€¦Anyway, He has a bigger problem with this than I do. If you love someone with all your heart you really donā€™t want them to feel the pain you know they will feel when you are gone. So, in order to avoid that I would want someone there for him, to console him. Yes, I want him to remarry. Will he? I have no idea. And lastly, in a perfect world, which we do have have, I would want to help him choose someone who could view our beliefs the way we do. WOmen are so tricky at heart some times. (I am one, and have met too many with trickery in so many parts of their lives) Even getting a man based on looks alone is a ploy women use to get with the wrong man. (i.e., they pretend the are faithful, loyal, religious, at heart just to win him over) THen after a while their true colors are shown and he is stuck with a true pain!!! For a long time to come!

So, would I actually ā€œhelpā€ in the sense of actively looking? No, probablly not. BUt, if he found someone then I would want to meet her and get to know her. If she has Islam in her heart the way we do, then she will look at me as a sister, not competition. And if she has jealousy in her heart, then she also does not have Islam the same in her heart as we do. I think a second wife, for the right reasons are fineā€¦providing she is the right woman, with the right attitue about Islam. (but thatā€™s another subject, sorry!)

Now, would the next candidate step up, take a seat, and tell us why you would be the best woman for this position? >>>>>Interviews? LOLā€¦hilarious! :bizz:

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kakaballi:

I just have traditional views, not boolywood views.

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Also,,, BIG TYPO on my part......A prefect world which we do have should have read WHICH WE DO NOT HAVE! (of course!!!!

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^ Do you believe he would 'find' someone while you are waiting to be transported our from this world?